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orgasms
I've been with my partner for 5 months now. We have sex on a regular basis. Im just concerned because when we start fooling around i get very aroused and am ready to go every time, but as things progress i seem to lose that and can never fully be satisfied. I've never had an orgasm, and am starting to think it is me. We have tried so many positions. I just dont know how to find "that thing" that will change this for me.
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What are you doing when you start fooling around? If you can figure out what it is that gets you going, then perhaps you can do a bit more of it.
If, for example, whatever it is you do at the start of a session is something that you stop doing once you get going, that could be an issue.
Perhaps your partner (and yourself) are really comfortable fooling around, but not so comfortable having sex. Do you feel emotionally happy that you are currently having sex? Any doubts or stresses can make pleasure difficult. This can include worries about pregnancy or infection.
One thing that would probably help is if you figured out what you liked - without your boyfriend and the pressure of performing. Spend time time alone with yourself and try different touches; if you do this when you feel excited and have enough time, chances are you will have an orgasm. Many women find it easier to orgasm through masturbation than sex with a partner.
This is for a variety of reasons - but please note that many women have difficulties having orgasms from penetrative sex alone. Think outside the box - have him use his fingers, tongue, etc.
Once you know what works for you, you can educate him. Best of luck.
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