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my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and my sister moved in with her 2 kids and it's getting really crowded right now becouse it's my mom my stepdad my sister her 2 kids and me that's 6 people living in 1 house with 2 bedrooms and 1 bathroom and iam currently sleeping on the couch which I think is unfair so I asked my cousin michelle who is 36,but is like a big sister to me if I could move in with her and she said I could,but I had to ask my mom first,but the problem is I know my mom won't go for it what should I do?my stepdad is getting really cranky please help me!
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Hi Rachel,
It does sound like you are getting a raw deal in all of this chaos. I believe that your house has become a home for various individuals(ie. your step-dad and your sister's family) while your needs are are not being addressed. It seems like a very basic requirement for a 17 year-old girl to have her own room, especially when there are so many extra people in the house. I think it is admirable that your Mom is helping out your sister but I believe that you need as much attention and care as you are still the minor child in your mother's house.
I think your idea of living with your cousin is an excellent one. It sounds like you have a healthy relationship with her and she may be able to give you the loving home you need right now. It is understandable that your Mom could be hurt by your desire to leave the house. However, if you calmly and clearly explain how all of this has effected you (focus this conversation on your feelings), she will probably be understanding as well. I would also advise that your cousin talk to your Mom about it.
I wish you all the best in this.
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your mom should go for it. tell your mom that you need your privacy, since you are a teenager. you honestly shouldn't have to live like that.
you might also suggest that your sister get an apartment if she's old enough.
or you could ask your parents to possibly furnish the garage/basement if you have them. you can get heaters and everything.
hope i helped & that all works out!
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Just tell your mom that your beginning to feel crowded and that you need a bit more of your own space. Tell her that your cousin said it was alright and even get your cousin to talk to your mom aswell. Just basically explain to her all the advantages there would be if you were to move out. It's not just to give you more space it's also to give your sister and her kids some more space too. I'm sure your mom would be able to understand that it is for the best. But try not to get into an argument about because she won't want to listen properly to you then.
Hope this helps! :-)
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