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what is going on with my relationship?
my boyfriend and i have been together for a while already..but for the pass 2-3 months we've been arguing alot, over stupid simple things..but somewhow we always manage to pull through and apologize to each other over the end...but i want to know if these areguments can brings us to any bad endings even if we always make up after every argument that same night?
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Thank you for asking me personally, it feels great that you've turned to me for some advice and I'd be very honored to give you my input.
Sometimes when two people that are in a relationship spend tons of time together, they tend to get on each other's nerves and argue about a lot because they are getting short with each other. That could be one explaination. If you and your boyfriend have been spending a lot of time together and you havn't really been spending alone time with your friends and having your own life, then that is probably why these small fights are happening. A lot of people make the mistake of constantly spending their time with their boyfriend or girlfriend because they just like the feelings they get around that person.
Another explaination could be the way you both are fighting. Now, these might be small and stupid fights but do they ever get to the point where you're getting really angry and it turns into a big fight? Don't worry, this happens a lot too. If you find yourselves argueing about a small thing, then just say, "Hey, we're fighting over the alarm clock, I don't even remember what got this started."
Sometimes what can help is if you or him are too angry to actually sit down and say, "Ok, all I'm trying to tell you is that I felt upset when you....." Then you or him need to go home and start over the next day. If you feel that you need to still talk about what happened, then let him know that you'd like to talk to him about it and everything but don't let a fight start up again.
About your original question: But I want to know if these areguments can brings us to any bad endings even if we always make up after every argument that same night?
I'm not exactly understanding the answer you're looking for, but if you're having little fights and you make up, then you're fine and theres no reason you should try ending the relationship. However, if you're having a lot of fights that are huge and meaningful, like cheating, sex, drugs or any of that, then thats when you have to find out whether something he does is forgivable or acceptable to you. If you don't want to share a future with someone whose doing drugs and he's doing them, then end it. If he cheated on you and you can't forgive it, then end it.
I think you and your boyfriend are fine and will be fine together. Like you said, these fights are simple and stupid things and you're able to make-up.
If you have anymore questions or concerns, please write back. Thank you.
-TheTeenGirl
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