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15/f. So I feel like I have a problem that I can't find the answer to. Well, here it goes. I have really low self confidence. I mean, I don't know why, because I have good friends, a good family, good grades, etc. But I'm constantly thinking everybody else is better than me and getting angry at people if they give me a compliment or something. And I'm always criticizing myself, worrying if people like me or not, and getting really upset at the most stupid, insignificant things. I don't know what's wrong with me, I mean I always try to be happy and optomistic but then I overanalyze everything and start being pessimistic about everything. I know I shouldn't have this problem becuase there are so many people who have more problems than me but make the best out of a bad situiation. It is possible that I have depression of something ? Or maybe just going through a phase. I need advice on what I can do to feel better about myself. Sorry this was so long. Thanks a bunch !
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Everyone will go through this phase where they become aware of their imperfections and they start to wonder if other people around them are notcing this imperfection and what they are thinking of it if they do notice.
I think that the feelings you're experiencing are just a phase that I'm describing. What you have to do is find out what you're really made of and put yourself out there to what you want to do or what you think you can't do. Sometimes we tend to believe that we aren't capable of certain things and we have no idea how powerful we really are and you have to try that. Do you want to be a cheerleader? A dancer? An Actress? A model? A basketball player? Find out what school activity you like or some kind of outside sport and sign up for it and you'll see that you are better than a lot of people at certain things.
That's just another fact of life. You'll be better at certain things than other people and other people will be better at certain things than you are. Another fact is that you'll always be walking down the street or flipping through a magazine and see someone prettier than you are and that's more than ok to believe that someone might be prettier, but you have to ask yourself: Am I pretty? Do I think that I'm attractive too? Because you can still believe someone is pretty while you believe that you're pretty too. Just because someone is prettier, it doesn't mean that you are uglier and should try making yourself just as pretty.
Bottom line is that you'll always have something you don't like about your appearance, if it bothers you that much and it's fixable, then try your best to make it how you like it. If it's not fixable or costs a lot just to get it fixed, then it's ment to be there to make you yourself. Without that birthmark on your face or chip on your tooth, you probably aren't as you as you are today. Besides, a lot of girls tend to make a huge deal out of a mole or something that's not even that noticable and they stress over nothing!
Look in the mirror, and tell yourself out loud what you like about your appearance. Do you like that your hair is thin or thick? Curly or straight? The way it looks in a ponytail? Then try to remember those compliments you recieve from people and let it be your reminder that people like that certain thing about you. Don't get aggravated just because someone compliments you. It's a way of making a new friend or making your day. Being aggravated and argueing back just gives the compliment back to them and it's rude.
If you have anymore questions concerning this situation, please write back. Thank you.
-TheTeenGirl
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