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am i just a friend or something more?
i'm 20; i've known this girl for 8 or 9 years now, i've always liked her, however i'm not really a ladys man. about 5 years ago i asked her out and she turned me down. about 2 years ago i thought i'd try it again, so i asked her out a 2nd time (i did not know it at the time, but found out later, about a week before i asked her out she started seeing someone else) she never really turned me down, but never took me up on my offer either.
we had not really spent any time togather in about a year; then 2 weeks ago she called me up out of the blue on sunday 10pm and asked me if i'd like to come over to her house to "hang out" when ever we hung out before it was always me, her and her twin sister, but that night it was just me and her. we sat alone in her living room and talked non stop from 10:30pm till 2:30am and there was never a dull moment.(she told me about her current boyfriend, and how she wanted to break up with him) we did not talk all week, but again on sunday she called me up, at 8pm and asked if i'd like to "hang out" again, so me and her went mini golfing( shortly after starting she told me she broke up with her boyfriend) we got done at 9pm and she said she wanted ice cream, so we went to dennys at 9pm, and sat in dennys and talked non stop from about 9pm till 11:45pm it's almost midnight on sunday and she knew i had to work monday, but she acted like she did not want me to leave, when we left dennys the first thing she said was "so, what do you want to do now?" so she sugests we go back to her house, for a midnight swim and i agreed, we did not really swim much, just sat with our feet in the water for about 30min then went back into her house and again talked till 2:30am. just me and her, no one else.
when we talk she looks deeply into my eyes and laughs at every lame joke i make, but after beeing shot down twice i'm not so bold this time, does she like me?
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You cant tell really if someone likes you, but she may be starting to like you around, which means she make have a thing for you. Exspeacially sense she didnt want you to be leaving anytime soon. I think she looks at you as someone that she can count on, if she just broke up with her boyfriend then she obviously may need a bit of comfort weather she broke up wit him or he broke up with her,, its always a hard thing on people. I would just defintly try and stay in touch with her and if the signs get to mixed up, ask. You deserve to know whats going on being thats its your love life that we are talking about here. Just ask her if she could see you and her as a couple in the future possibly near future. I know that getting turned down one time is probably already hard as it is, and then a 2nd time? Which is probably even harder, I would go for it one more time if you really think you do like her and if she is worth the "fight." Then go for it! I think if you ask her a 3rd time she may see that you a strong person and not weak. Your a fighter and not a giver upper. She'll see that you really do have something for her. You could possibly call her up one night and ask if she wanted to go do something fun such as : Roller skating, go carting, baseball cages, or walk around in the mall. Something. Just don't make it seem like to much of date, just slowly eaze into it. Maybe for some reason she was possibly scarred of having a relationship with you, I would just talk to her about it first because you don't deserve to have your emotions toyed with. If the third time doesnt work then i hate to say it but i dont think it ever will. I would let it go from there and move on. You two were probably just ment to be friends if that is the case. Sense she isn't giving you even a chane to prove yourself that you can and could be a great boyfriend. Let me know how things work out!
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