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i need advice
I need some advice
my hubby and i have been together for 10 years
we have 3 children ages 9.6.5
Things are stuff some i want to scratch my eye balls with depression
i was wondering
it it normal in the province for the wife to do everything and the husband to beable to work all day and come home and be as you sayit LAZY
and the wife to take care of the kids and then go work all night please Help me Brenda
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Hi
I'm sure it's "normal" in some households, but it's not right.
In my family EVERYTHING is done equally between my husband and I. We both clean, we both cook, we both do laundry, and we both look after our children.
I am very lucky to have a husband like this. Your
husband seems to be of the old school that he goes out and works all day, so that's where his "duties" end...forgetting that you also work, and all night too...when do you sleep?
If you haven't already sat your hubby down and had a very serious talk with him, now would be the time. He needs to realize that household chores, and child rearing are responsibilities that lie with the both of you. It's his house too, and they are his kids too.
Now, if you didn't work outside the home things may be a little different. Not that it would all fall back on you, but you would have the time and energy to do a little more around the house. However, that's not the case.
If talking to him about how you feel doesn't work, and he's pigheaded about the whole issue (which alot of men can be), then more drastic measures could be taken. You could go on strike for a couple of days, to truly show him how much you deal with on a day to day basis. You could also try counselling.
Last but not least, you are totally validated to feel this way. Marriage should be 100/100 from both sides, and you are going to end up more miserable if you don't get this worked out. It's time for open communication!!
Good luck, and take care.
Brenda
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