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my ex...
Ive been with this guy for a few months over a year now. We have our ups and downs, but lately i dont feel a connection. We will probably get it back and im not too worried. I have problems getting over past boyfriends. I still have feelings for them long after we break up. I have managed to get over all of them but one. And my feelings are building. He was my first serious relationship. We broke up because i didnt feel i was ready for it. However now i am much more comfortable with sex and that and i think we could really make it work. (im 15, my boyfriend is 17, and my ex is 14) Last night i told my ex i missed him and we remminissed about are time together. He asked me out, saying i didnt seem too happy with my current boyfriend. Which i guess is true. I was thinking about telling my boyfriend i wanted to break up for a couple months or so. Just to get some space and if we got back together we would appreciate eachother more. I feel we take eachother for granted. I would make it clear that we could see other people because im not going to make him be single for that long and its up to him if he has another realtionship. I have already suggested this and he said it was up to me and we are talking properly tonight. I would then say yes to my ex so we could try and make things work and if i couldnt then i would probably finally be able to get over him and no it really wasnt meant to be. I need some input. Am i being mean? What do you guys think i should do? Thanks xxxx
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I don`t think your being mean at all if after you break up with someone you still have feelings for them chances are you still like him.. and for your boyfriend now just be honest with him and tell him the truth. I think you and your ex have a thing for each other & aren't ready to move on & thats perfectly normal and pretty dang cute. ♥
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It sounds to me like you are in a very confused state. You are still too young to be having sex (it is illegal at your age) and your ex is even younger. Obviously it is none of my business you are having sex but I believe it is not making life easy for you. You have to be honest with your two guy friends and equally be honest with yourself. You have many years in which to find the right man and shouldn't be too hung up on making it right with either of these guys. Breaking up and making up with these boyfriends constantly leaves everyone feeling confused, including yourself. If you honestly believe you can make it work with the ex then you have to let your current guy go - don't keep him holding on with a "lets see if I can make a go with my ex" situation "and if it doesn't I'll take you back".
You need to see how this is feeling from their point of view as well. You may be undecided in which one you like the most, but how do think they are feeling when you keep dangling yourself out and then hesitating? Maybe it would be a good idea to take some time out from both of these guys and have a good time being single. There is no rush to have a permanent boyfriend and you might definitely appreciate the one you decide to be with more. I know you probably wanted to hear different things but just taking time out to weigh up your options can make things easier. I wish you all the very best.
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Why don't you just tell your current boyfriend the truth. Tell him that you miss your ex and you would rather be single than be in a relationship and still be thinking about your ex. I wouldn't tell your boyfriend that you should break up for a few months, because what if you don't want to go back out with him. Also, he is going to think you were lying if you break up then go out with your ex.
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