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My boyfriend thinks i'm not a virgin and so does everyone el
Ok im 13 years old and my boyfriend and everyone else including family thinks im not a virgin. I have made up stories to make people believe that im not and i dont know how to tell my boyfriend or if i should tell him. He already thinks im older than i really am and i dont know how to tell him the truth about that either. Help me!!
sincerely,
**so many lies**:(--</3--<3
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There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, whatever your age is. You have two choices now: tell the truth to one or more people, or continue to lie. It seems that lying hasn't worked in your favour up till this point, so perhaps you might want to think seriously about the possible problems with continuing to do so.
Telling the truth is potentially awkward, but at least you aren't telling your family something negative such as admitting to a serious drug or alcohol problem. It might help to take some time to think about what made you lie in the first place.
Did you feel your famiy would not accept you being a virgin? Does your boyfriend expect to date a non-virgin? What made you tell your boyfriend you were older?
Then you might want to say something like, 'I really need to talk to you. I haven't been honest with you about something, and that's because I ______________ (felt uncomfortable, were afraid of your reaction, etc). But I care about you and want to be honest with you, so here's the truth....'
In regards to your boyfriend, honesty is one of the most important parts of a relationship. If you feel you cannot be honest with your boyfriend, you might want to reconsider if he is the right person for you. After all, you want to feel comfortable and confident honestly being yourself - if you feel you can't be, then you are setting yourself up for a fall.
If you feel your age might be a barrier to him wanting to be with you, it's important to be realistic with yourself. If you feel there might be a problem with your respective ages, you may be right. A few years can make quite a big difference in the early teen years. If you feel you could still be together despite the age, then you will want to tell him.
One lie makes it easier to lie in the future, and before you know it you're in a complicated and confusing situation - where you will probably get hurt and also hurt those around you.
Untangling the lie now will be difficult, but it will make your future much easier.
Best of luck.
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