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hey i asked that question about some oen callin my hosue and tellin my mom about me gettin pregnant and etc. the turht is I am still a VIRGIN. i havent had sex i just started on birthcontrol bc of a accident that happened wit me and my bf that made him think i was pregnant. i am not sexual active and i kinda thought about it but i know i am not ready for it. i just was on birth control because i want to be protected ya knoe. so what would you say since i told you this much more about my question.
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Sorry I misunderstood, I thought you were having sex with your boyfriend.
What you really need to do is sit down and have a chat with your Mother about this. I know it's not a favourable thing to do but you don't need to go into details about your activities with your boyfriend. However you do need to stress to her that although you appreciate in your religion that sex before marriage is frowned upon, you haven't actually had sex yet. You need to make this clear to her in as calm a manner as possible. I know that is probably quite difficult, given the way she reacted but you need to appreciate that she had your best interest at heart. I expect she assumed you were sexually active, panicked a little and overreacted without really talking to her about it. So set her mind at ease. Let her know you aren't having sex but you wanted to be on birth control just to be on the safe side, because it's better to be on it now than have any accidents happen and regret it later. At the same time, you also need to tell her how and from where you obtain the pills. I must admit, I'm not sure I understand whether you aren't allowed to tell her where you got them or if you just felt you couldn't but it is better to tell the truth now than risk getting deeper into trouble with the lie.
The chances are, she will still be very upset. When a Mother has a shock like this, it can take a while for her to come to terms with it because anything involving actions of a sexual nature, regardless of whether or not they involve intercourse, is like a slap round the face to parents and a sure reminder that their child is growing up into an adult. However, if you try to calmly talk things through and apologise to her for upsetting her, it might make things a little better.
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