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My parents are to stricked on me!!
i'm 15 years old and im a sophmore.My parents are really stricked on me, when I was younger I usto get good grades and be the perfect daughter to them. When I would ask to go to the movies or out with friends they would get really mad at me and start to yell at me and they would never let me go out. I saw that even though I was a good daughter they still didnt trust me so I decided to give them a reason why not to trust me. Soon after I began to get suspended get bad grades and I even lost my verginity to a guy that wasnt even worth it. Things got even worse, I ended up pregnant but I had a miscarage. my parents never found out about that part though. Now I have a boyfriend that I have been with for about 1 year and 2 months. He is really nice and respectful, my parents hate him and do everything to keep us away, even though all of that my boyfriend has stayed by my side and tells me he wont leave me alone in the situation I am in with my parents. I am much more mature know and dont do the things that I usto do. But yet they still dont trust me or let me go out at all. i feel really left out because all my friends can go out but I always got to stay home. I have tried talking to my parents but it is so hard because to them it is their way or nothing. I dont know how to get them to understand what i am going threw and how I feel..what should I do?
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I can't relate to your situation, but I can imagine what it could be like to not even be able to step foot out of your house.
I'm not sure why your parents are very overprotective, but you have to keep being a good daughter to them even though you feel that all of your hard work feels like nothing. I know you want to be perfect for them, but being a good daughter and working hard at everything you do isn't just happiness with your parents. It will encourage you to keep doing better in the future when that hard work will be needed the most. It's a long-term method that will do you good later on and not just now.
But aside from all of your problems with your parents, you have your miscarriage inccident that your parents don't even know about. It has to be hard to keep up with school, and everything else that matters when you have this unborn child that you've lost. That has to be really tough to handle each day. I think you should consider some kind of counseling or therapy. I know you might be thinking that it won't work, but just having someone to talk to, it's a nice thing to have knowing that at least someone cares.
I know that you have your new boyfriend, and I imagine that he's a great help, but you should figure out to handle these feelings and problems alone by getting into therapy. I'm not saying that you can't talk to your boyfriend about it, I'm suggesting that you try learning some methods where incase your boyfriend isn't here, you can handle it. Besides, I think you really need it because of certain things that have happened in the past.
I know you may be wanting to give up on your parents, but don't. If anything, they are trying to protect you, but it's too much. They aren't doing this to torture you or make you upset. Sometimes when you aren't getting your way, you tend to throw a fit or yell in a confrontation. I'm not saying that you did that, but when you do throw a fit, they tune you out and just look at you as a child you used to be. The best way to truly get down to the bottom of people is to confront them like an adult. Ask them if there is anything you can do to set things straight and to possibly be trusted to go out with friends.
But before that, maybe you should actually let them know what you are gong through. You don't have to tell them details, but at least tell them you feel stuck in life and need a little help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help in life, nobody is perfect. Everyone goes through a ton of times in their lives where they just have to stop and ask for help because it's too much. I hope that this helps and if you have any further concerns: Please let me know.
-TheTeenGirl
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