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Hey I am getting so annoyed over this...!!! Right, I am totally skint and I have no money whatsoever. I feel like a scruff because I have no decent clothes and I have no self confidence because of the way I look etc.
I am so jealous (to the point of crying) of my friends as they get given pocketmoney every week and they are given at least £5 If they go out. My parents think they are treating me if they give me £1 without working for it. I have asked for pocketmoney and we have yet to come to a compromise as they reckon £2 is a generous amount for washing the car.
I have no self confidence so i am too shy to go out and ask for a job in a shop...uurrgh i am just so stressed out because the Summer is my favourite time of the year and I want to enjoy myself but if i cant even buy a bikini then whats the point.? They say money doesnt =happinesss but if i have money I could go out and buy clothes etc to make me look better which will raise my self confidence which will get me a boyfriend or a job etc which will make me HAPPY. I want to be treated once in a while....
my parents just dont understand and they dont see me stressin out in a room bashing my head against walls and crying they just think Im gonna get over it but when all my friends are pressuring me and wearing new outfits every month and going on flash holidays every year.....
luv rach n plz dont tell me bout ppl lower than me...
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okay so self esteem seems to be low. obv.. get a job. what is the worst that can happen. you gettin a job will raise your self esteem cause you did it on your own.. then you make your own money your own money.. buy your own cloths and get yourself a boyfriend.. simple i have to work for money to.. its actually fun!!
-Adrianna
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make babysitting signs, pet sitting signs, have a car wash, kool-aid or lemonade stand., sell jewelry.. you could do that kinda stuff to make money..
i used to.. my parents never give me money, and i never had an allowance. it was hard to watch all my friends get money for doing nothing also.. but it also makes you more prepared for the real world to grow up earning things.
and about the clothes.. you could take old stuff, and embellish it, or add things to it to make it trendier.. shop at secondhand clothing stores.. almost anything works.. and believe me.. you don't need a boyfriend to keep you happy.
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If your too shy to go to a store and ask for a job then you'll never get over your self confidence.. It's gotta start somewhere and by that I mean, go to the store and ask for a job, it doesn't take much. You'll then be working and reeling in the money to buy clothes and make you feel better! Simple as that, good luck.
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Your parents may not be being as generous as they could be, but nowhere is it written that they must give you pocket money and relieve your stress for you. You are growing up and it's time to stop looking to them to solve your problems.
I doubt your parents expect you to get over it, I bet they recognize the pain it is causing you but they do expect you to grow through this pain and do something about it yourself. If you are too shy to try and look for work, that is a self-confidence problem that wont go away if they give you money, and that is something you need to work on.
If you are uncomfortable approaching strangers for work, start with your neighbors or family. Do you have an aunt who needs help with her gardening? A neighbor who needs their dog watched while they are away?
Although I agree that £2 isn't much for washing a car, that is something you need to discuss with your parents calmly. A job is only worth as much as someone wants to pay you for it, if they refuse to pay you what you think you deserve then the best thing you can do is not do the work.
Money doesn't equal happiness OR self-confidence. Feeling helpless and insecure is something only you can fix. A bit of money might make life easier, but it will not make you any better of a person, that is something you have to achieve on your own. You are the only one who can solve this problem for you, so stop banging your head against the wall and start using it to brainstorm solutions.
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