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Feelings Gone Wild
My exboyfriend and I never had sex, but the reason we broke up is because he had sex with another friend of his. I was mad and asked him how could he hurt me like that? I thought he loved me? He said he didn't know what love was. Obviously I dumped him and then tried ignoring him. I wanted to just forget everything. But we ended up in the same school club and I started really liking him again. We also both made friends with a girl named Monica, no we usually hang out in threes. (Monica has a long distance bf she would never cheat on, if that helps.) I can see my ex maturing, but he never has said sorry to me. We hang out one on one now sometimes. I've learned that his mom put him up for adoption for selfish reasons and the lady that adopted him kicked him out because he'd gotten in a fight with her nephew and made her brother hate her. But now in the club he really seems different. I once heard him telling Monica she's taught him a lot about people. And how he'd hated everyone. So now my ex & I are best friends but neither of us has said anything about our past relationship or a future one. What do I do? I want to be with him again; is that wrong? Can you forgive someone that never says they're sorry?
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you can DEFINITLY forgive someone even if they've never said sorry. it's you moving on from the situation and putting it all behind you. if you continue to dwell on it, and hold a grudge, you havent forgiven him. but it seems like you're on your way or have gotten past that. i'm glad to hear your guys' relationship is improving and although what he did was extremelyyyy cruel, maybe it wouldnt hurt talking about it? it's all up to you but if you feel confident enough with talking to him again, i think you should try it. what do you have to lose? he's not your bf anymore..
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what he did to you, that was cruel. you can't deny that, and it's going to stick with you forever! but, if you have feelings for him, you can't hide from them. you need to talk to him. tell him that what he did before was wrong, and that it hurt you. but tell him that you like him now. tell him that you do like him, and that if he likes you, things can work. but only if he's sorry.
you see, if he finds nothing wrong with wat he did, CHEATING on you, then you can't exactly call him the most genuine guy in the world. but, if he's sorry and just too scared to say it, then who knows. maybe he has feelings for you now too.
hope i helped!
sissy
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