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MLE Morphing
Triple G again. I need someoine to talk to. Today MLE really went off the wall. She dresses like a slut now, and today 4 da 1st time in her life, she cursed. Not because she got mad, just for fun. And every1 loves her now. In fact, people are hugging her ( not in that relationship sort of way, more in that royal way) and bringing her to class. The whole class is doing it. I'm really jealous of her. If she cries, every1's on her hand on foot. I do the same thing, every1 will stare at me and then walk away. No one even hangs out with me. Advice?
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Well, people can sniff out people who are not being genuine. MLE may not be being her best or most true self, but at this point in time she's trying out new styles of dress, language, and behaviour. These may be right for her in the short term.
If you try to copy her, people will be able to tell that you are not doing what is right for you. This could have the effect of making other people annoyed.
When you describe MLE, it sounds as if you don't like her and don't care for the way she behaves. So why try to emulate her?
Being a teenager is tough, and there's nothing anyone can say to make it better. But I can genuinely say that if you do what feels best for you, you will end up attracting one or two other people who are really well suited to you. This way, you can make friends with people who like you for you - not because you dress or behave in a certain way.
Why not take a look around your school and see what people appeal to you? Instead of waiting for others to approach you, you can get yourself out there. You can join a club of an interest you have - and therefore meet a whole group of people who you'll already have something to talk about. Or you could just say hi to someone that seems interesting.
Everyone has parts of themselves they like and hate - even MLE. It's impossible to look at her outsides and know what she's feeling, but her actions suggest she's not really happy with herself and is trying to find a self she likes better.
Both you and MLE are who you are, no matter how many masks you wear. And it's okay to be you. Great, in fact.
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If this is MLE's personality, then people probably will not find it odd that she is behaving this way. If YOU were to suddenly act this way and it's not your normal behaviour, people are unlikely to respond - they'll know you aren't being genuine.
It might be worth considering if this is behaviour you really want to copy. Dressing provacatively and cussing both sound like things you are not interested in - and now you know they won't get you results.
People could be responding to MLE because they are intimidated by her and don't want to be bullied, because they wish they could be like her, or any of a number of reasons.
While I understand this is tough on you, please realise other people are probably having the same thoughts as you. Try to find one or two really close friends - I can guarantee someone you trust and really share things with is more fulfilling and supportive in the long run than a whole group of people tripping over themselves to have surface level friendship with you.
The best advice I can give you is to truly be yourself. People like people who are comfortable with themselves - this also has the added bonus of attracting people who are similar to you. If people can see you for who you really are, the ones that come forward are the ones worth keeping.
Best of luck.
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