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how to help a friend battle balimia
I have a friend that has balimia. and i really need to help her. but she doesn't want me to tell any one. How do I help if i cant say anything?
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This is a serious issue, and do not worry I understand exactly where you are because i was bullimic as well, and ym sister helped me stop without telling anybody. Here are the best steps...
Act understanding, but never approving. As nicely or look around her room for a "thinsperation" book. This is a book of pictures of fat people or thin pretty models or even quotes. Get rid of it, it's deadly. A food tracking book should be disposed of as well.
catch her when you can, bust open the door and call her out. yell at her, tell her to get back to her room/seat now and look mad. then tell her that you are angry that she is still doing this and she needs to stop
Make her promise not to do it anymore, she most likely won't follow the promise but this gives you reason to be angry when you find bullimic symptoms again. believe me when my sister was amd at me, I felt bad and it pushed me to be better.
I know you don't want to lose her as a friend, but she can lose her life. I understand you won't tell anybody but you must threaten to tell. I NEVER would have stopped if I thought my sister would never tell. In the end her threats were what forced me to stop. She never did tell, but just the thought made me sick.
watch for signs of a purge. This would be taking in large amounts of water between each bite, bullimic girls do this to make the purging easier. Also, a complete binge where she eats crazy amounts of food fast, this is a sure way to lead to a purge. When you see that call her out, or just watch where she goes next.
Call her after dinner time. Call her after lunch. Call her cell everytime you think she might have just eaten or she might purge, keep her on for a little while and if she tries to hang up quick tell her she better not purge, or that you know.
take away all diet pills, or syrups used to make her throw up. Also any dieretics.
check her computer history for any pro ana/mia sites. alot of the links you need to look for can be found on a yahoo search of "ana's underground grotto" if she doesnt go to those sites, it will be easier to stop.
by this time she will feel a personal invasion of her privacy, but her telling you means she deep down wants to stop and wants somebody to care. always remember, she may not like you but she will get over it when she is cured, and love you even more. Talk to her about hewr feelings and show her the dangers with real facts and stories.
Remember that being nice and trusting will NOT help her, I used to be bullimic and I had friends who tried, but they were too afraid of me hating them to care. Follow these tips and if after a few months she is still on the same path, you have to tell somebody im sorry it just would have to happen.
please follow up and tell me how things are going, or if you ahve any additional questions remember i ahve been through this myself. lots of luck and love
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