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He doesn't know what he's doing
So this guy I'm seeing came over last night and we were just making out when he takes his hand, puts it between my legs and starts rubbing me. Well, I usually wouldn't have a problem with it but it seemed as if he didn't know what he was doing. Not doing it in the right spot AT ALL.
I tried taking his hand and put it where I wanted it but somehow it'd always end up in the wrong spot again.
So after that happened, I took his hand off of my crotch and didn't let him do it any more.
Now, he thinks I made him stop because I wasn't comfortable with it. Should I let him think that or should I tell him the truth?
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I wouldn't worry about whether to tell him the truth of not. Just tell him or show him what you want. As a guy, I would want to know what my girlfriend wants, and what feels best to her. Just show him where to touch you and how to touch you. My experience is that not all girls want exactly the same kind of stimulation. I know that I have not given some of my girlfriends what they really wanted because they were shy about telling me. It's not really fair to the guy when a girl expects him to already know how to touch her.
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Hey,
i had the same exact problem before.. i kept showing him where it was, but you really can't be so impatient about it because the clit is a hard spot to target for some guys.. Dont tell him the truth, because then he will be nervous next time he tries to do it again, just wait a little while, let out little moans when he does hit the spot so he knows where it feels good. I mean he needs some kind of feedback right?
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Honestly? It will be difficult to do but you have got to tell him the truth. If you don't, not only will he continue to make the same mistake with you but this poor misguided lad's attentions will be poorly inflicted upon every subsequent girlfriend! By telling him that he's not quite doing it correctly, you're not only helping yourself but you're really also helping him and any future girlfriends.
However, be nice about it. I mean supernice. Guys, especially when they are just starting out with bedroom antics are very self-conscious, in general. Put it too crassly and he'll feel embarrassed and humiliated and you won't see him for dust! So perhaps next time he tries, stop kissing him for a second and just gently tell him how you like it. Tell him where to go and what to do when he gets there. Then make a REALLY big deal about it when he gets it right, so that he feels encouraged to do it again.
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