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my friend might not stop having sex untill she becomes prega
Ok here is the thing, my friend and her boyfriend started having sex about 6 maybe 7 mounths ago, and i do not have any problems with that. But since then she has thought she might be pregant 4 times! Im scared that she might not be careful untill she becomes pregant. Her boyfriend told her that if she ever did become pregant then he would leave her. I don't vare if she has sex, i just don't want her to another 15 year old girl who becomes pregant. Do you think i should but in because, everytime she calls saying she needs me to come over so she I can read the pregancy results, i tell her that she lucky that she's not, and she should start useing protection. she says she doesn't need it cuz she is on the pill. should I but in, or should i just be the friend that warns her,then reads the results, tell her she lucky and that she should protection?
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you and your friend sit down and talk about this. tell her you just telling her this because you dont want anything to happen to her (pregnant @ 15). Just listen to what she has to say also dont just talk.
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i think seeing as shes your close friend, you neeeed to talk to her. even if she is on the pill, it is still a possibility she could get pregnant and you need to let her know that. remind her of the diseases that she could get also! shes not in the clearing just because of a pill. tell her that if she wants to continue having sex she really should have protection. its the safest way to go. after you explain all of this to her and really tell her how you feel whats best for her, then she can make her own decision. you cant force her into doing anything she doesnt want to, but you can say that you most definetly warned her if .. something goes wrong. which we pray to god not to happen. i hope i helped lotts of luck
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Unfortunately, there isn't a lot you can do or say now that you probably haven't already said to her and if she thinks she is mature enough to have sex, then she should be mature enough to take the proper precautions.
The Pill, depending upon which one you use, is up to 99.9% effective. However, this is only true if you take it correctly and if she keeps having reason to believe she is pregnant then she either isn't taking the Pill correctly or she lied about using it. This being said, as getting pregnant on the Pill is still possible, she ought to use condoms as well (which protect against the STI's and STD's. The Pill does not). This is what the Dutch call going 'Double Dutch' and it provides the best possible contraception.
It is worth bearing in mind (and possibly this is a good thing to mention to her) that although sex might be fantastic by itself, it is primarily for conceiving babies and if she isn't with someone who would be prepared to stay with her or even support her should she accidentally fall pregnant, she shouldn't be having sex with him in the first place, especially underage.
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The pill is not foolproof. My first child was conceived while I was on the pill. Also, the pill provides absolutely no protection against STDs. If she is going to continue having sex, I would highly recommend she use condoms as well.
I would definitely sit down with her and try to get her to understand the necessity of using protection. If she will read the package insert that comes with the pill, she'll see that it clearly says it's not 100% effective and provides no protection from STDs.
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