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My sister cares more about her than me
Me and my sister have only one year difference
I'm the oldest one
We have a cousin who nobody in the family likes becuse she is rude and almost all the time has a bad humour .
When we were living alone she came to live with
us becuase her mom(my aunt)was giving her a hard time .Because she didn't want to take care of her baby
She had make my life a hell ,we constantly were fighting and stuff and she put my own sister against me .Me and my sister came to europe to study and we both have our own house .
We finely talk more often to each other and the relationship was great between us .
Last year my cousin came to live in the
same town as us and only 10 min away from both off us .
So I do not go often more to my sis because of her ..she talks realy
bad to me and even to my bf and some other friends of mine ..
And all this happen while my sister is standing there and she doesn't say nothing
Last night my sister invited me and my bf over for dinner so we went and to our big surprise my cousin came too.
While we were talking my sister told me that she had a big dept on her phone and the company closed her phone ..I was telling her what she could do and stuff .....My cousin just stood up and told me that maybe my sister have a high dept becuase she has to call me to much because I never has credit on my phone ...in front of everybody ...I SWEAR THIS IS NOT TRUE .
I told her that she was very wrong ..
I WAS HURT
MY SISTER DIDN'T SAY NOTHING.
My sister even broke up with her lifetime best friend because of my cousin.Her relationship with her mother(addoptive mother ,our real mother left us alone in a house when we were 12)
went from10 to 3 .Becuase of our cousin.
When they go out my sister is always the one who pays for her,she always says that she doesn't have money wich I suspect she has becuase she gets money from government and she works partime at her own house..
My sister always says she is like that becuase nobody else understand her and that she has had a rough life too ,but helllloooooo I have had a really fucked up life too atleast her mother were there to give her hard time mines left.
I have had a real bad childhood but still I dont treat people like crap like they are worth nothing,she does and my sister justified her.
Should I just let the relationship I built with my sister this past 3 years just go and not fight it??
Or should I stand up to my cousin ......in front of my sister ?
I'm really tired and I do not want to give it a try ....I have suffer a lot when we were living togheter all becuase of my cousin ...
Is this feeling right ??
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Hi Sweetheart,
You sound like a very kind person. You took in your cousin (who obviously as some issues) I have a very strong bond with my sisters. That bond is so important to me. You and your sister have bee through a lot (with your mother leaving you) and you need to stay close. Your sister did arrange that dinner for you, but the cousin ruined it.
Your cousin sounds like an unpleasant person. If she had a baby, then it is HER responsibility to take care of it. Your aunt should definatly keep bothering your cousin about caring for her own child.
I think that you need to stand up to your cousin. I think that your sister couldn't be fond of her either.
The very very best of luck to you!
Love from,
Mable
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I can tell that you're really bothered by the relationship between your sister and your cousin.
Your cousin does sound like a really selfish person. But, you don't have to deal with her if she's really causing all of this trouble. But you should stick with keeping in touch with your sister.
The reality is that your sister does not see what kind of person your cousin is. So if she believes that nobody understands her and wants to pay for everything she needs, then leave that to your sister. I know it really aggravates you that your sister won't stick up for you, but that is her fault if she wants to side with your cousin over you. She will eventually see what kind of person she really is. I think what keeps your sister taking care of your cousin is the fact that she's family and she doesn't really have that much around her like you do.
But what really matters is that you talk to your sister about having your times together. Asking her if sometime it can be just you and her going out for dinner or a movie or something else. And your conversations don't have to revolve around your cousin. What really matters is having a stable relationship with your sister without your cousin getting in the way. And if your sister doesn't care about making that time for you, then you'll have to wait until she decides that you're important and for her to call you.
I think at this point, you shouldn't try going places with your cousin for the way she talks badly about you. That way you can avoid the anger you feel toward her and have the urge to scream at her in front of everyone.
-TheTeenGirl
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