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My boyfriend
Okay, I am someone you know. Im keeping this kinda private, and since i know you are great with guys I'm going to ask what to do.
I love my boyfriend, He's almost the world to me.
I know he loves me also, we've been dating for a long time. I'm depressed because of something that happend to me last year, and I take it out on him. He makes me really happy, but when im sad I treat him horribly and push him away. I dont know how to stop, please please tell me how to stop. I want to confide in him for help, i dont want to loose him because of my emotional unavailablity.
Also, another thing. He's really good friends with his Ex. It bothers me and i get jealous, and shut him out once again. She had a bonfire this weekend and him and his friends stayed the night. When he told me, i knew he was worried because he thought id get mad because he said "oh, but my ____ was there too, and her cousin ______" I really want to tell him i hate it. But, then again I hang out with my ex alot too. How do i learn to be fair to him, and not get so mad?
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everyone has different ways of blowing off steam. and for you - i guess its on your boyfriend. obviously you dont like it or you wouldnt be coming to me for it. so i suggest you try taking it out on something else, not exactly someone. maybe try doing something creative or constructive with it. maybe try that hard-core painting.. where you like splash the brush on a wall.. or take up a sport like volleyball where you can hit the ball really hard. just something that can get your anger/depression out. and let that space be filled with wonderful, amazing, happy things from your boyfriend. try to do the thing [ whatever new activity you choose ] right before you guys hang out. then you wont have as much build up. and you can soak up the fun and happy feeling from him.
hun, i dont blame you. i would be super jealous too! i suggest maybe trying to become frineds with his ex and get to know her, so when they hang out - you can come too. i dont rerally understand the whole bonfire thing.. did he spend the night over there? if he did, then i would deffinitally talk to him about it. like, id tell him i wasnt comfortable with him doing that with anyone, let alone his ex. alot of times, people try and stay close with their ex's after they break it off. im the same way. some of my BEST GUY FRIENDS are also my exboyfriends. you have to think - maybe his ex feels the same way about him. dont right away accuse him of cheating or anything because guys hate that - especially when they are completely loyal. and sometimes it even makes them feel like they should to get you back for assuming it. jsut tell him that you arent really comfortable with him spending so much time over at his ex's house or with her. and you'd rather that time be spent with you. good luck
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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