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this guy = confusion
ok. i`ve been knowing thiss guy.. since 6th grade and i`ve fallen for him. *since 6th grade* but i was a fat girl and he wasn`t so he didn`t like me. we were kool, kinda friends i guess, but you can tell he didn`t like me cause i used to ask him out all the time. well throughout middle school, my like for him got stronger and stronger. and i lost weight during summer b4 9th grade. well in 9th grade, he started talking to me more, and more. and we evolved a friend ship. he had a girl friend, but she could nvr do nething durin the weekends, so i used to do stuff with him all the time, and he used to cuddle with me. well they broke up and we started talkin, and he asked me out on his birthday. well we broke up but even tho we were broken up we were still actin like we were goin out. he had another g/f and he cheated on her with me and was still tellin me he loved me, and i cheated on my b/f with him. well now he has no g/f and i have no b/f and we tell each other tht we arent goin to get one. but i dont understand why WE D0NT G0 BACK 0UT. i mean we tell each other we love each other, and spend each minute with each other, everyday @ school and everyweekend. but he is goin off to a school next year tht is like 5 hours from here. only gonna come down once a month, but idk. we`re at the end of out 10th grade year. and we have been talking since october of 2004 so almost 2 years. but we don`t go out but we act like we do and everyone at school thinks we do. please i need advice.
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You should tell him how you feel. Let him know about all of this. OR you could ask him out, and tell him the reasons. I agree with you though, and I do think that you guys should be going out. You have the rest of they year, and the summer for a relationship, and if it is a strong relationship, you could try the long-distance thing. I hope this helps!
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It sounds as though this guy has a fear of commitment. He clearly has feelings for you but for some reason will not allow himself to formally be your boyfriend. Unfortunately, while I suspect this is what the problem is, I can't say for sure and really the only way you will know for sure what the problem is is to ask him directly.
I know that it puts you in an awkward position and that it makes you vulnerable to rejection but after the way he has treated you, you deserve an explanation because he seems to have been leading you on for quite some time. Try to get him alone (either at your house, his or somewhere neutral) and tell him that you really like him and he has told you how he feels about you and if this is the case, you can't understand why he doesn't seem to want to be with you and that after all this time, you need an explanation because you can't keep hanging around with him if there's no future in the relationship.
If he can't give you a satisfactory answer or tells you he just isn't ready for a relationship etc, you need to accept that however strongly you may feel about him, you are wasting your time with him and the best thing you can do is try to move on. Believe me, I know this is hard to do but there will be men who behave like this all the time in life and although you may like them, you are better off cutting them loose or you may realise that two years have gone by and you haven't been with anyone else because you have been waiting for a guy who can't pull himself together.
You sound like a nice girl so please, don't waste your time on someone who isn't prepared to fully throw himself into a relationship. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't but right now he's keeping you in limbo. You deserve more than that.
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i say that you two should go back out for now because if you really love each other then it will work and even if he moves youll still have feelings and maybe wen he moves you could go on a 'brake' because while hes down there and your up here youll love each other but youll be bored without each other so youll need other people then whem he comes back down and you see him and your wityh each other it will seem like yous go out and everything will seem ok just he will have to call you eeryonce in a while it coudl kind of be a good thing hes moving becuase it will make you want each other even more and look forward to your visits and be so much happier to see each other =] if you need any thing else just ask
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Why would you want to be with a guy who cheats? It doesn't matter if you were helping him cheat, don't convince yourself that he wouldn't cheat on you.
You are no different from the girl he cheated on. The reality is that you are better off without this guy and you should try not getting involved with guys who already have girlfriends. You wouldn't like it at all if a girl was trying to get a guy who was your boyfriend.
I think you are taking advantage of the attention you're getting now because you lost weight. Being pretty and thinner doesn't mean being meaner and trying to get all of the guys. Besides, this guy started looking your way when you lost weight, don't you think he's only accepting you for that one reason? If you gained yoyr weight back, do you think he would talk to you? I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but you need to be careful with the guys you are hooking up with.
It's common sense that if a guy cheats on his girlfriend with you, he is a cheater and he will eventually do it to you later on when another attractive girl comes his way. Don't settle for a guy, take the time to getting to know a guy who really respects you and getting the guy you truly deserve.
-TheTeenGirl
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I have gone through the exact same thing. Although, I think the reason he won't rush into anything is because he likes the way it is now. When he asks you out, he stands the risk of losing you AGAIN. He won't ask you out because the way you guys act like you're together without having to really call it a "commitment" seems like a better option. I say if you want to take things to the next level, talk to him about how you want to take things back up a knotch. Reassure him that yuo only have eyes for him, and that you will fight to make it work. After all, "love" is a strong term and if that is what you feel towards this boy, and he says it's how he feels about you, then you should have no problem convincing him that you two should be together. If that doesn't work, try pulling away alittle. Guys always wont what they can't seem to have, so if you bump up the hard-to-get knotch, he'll come running back in no time :) About the schol situation: If you don't think yuo can manage a long distance realtionship, I think you shuold seriously think twice before you talk to him about being together. Good Luck! I'm here for followup.
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