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this whole thing got blown way out of proportion.....
14/f. So my best guy friend is Tyler. We always talk on the phone, and are always talking to each other, and are always with each other. Of coarse, people started rumors that we were either going out or that he liked me/I liked him. They didn't really bug me that much because I knew it wasn't true and just shook it off and continued to talk to him. But when two of my friends asked him if he liked me and had a whole conversation with him about me, he stopped talking to me. He said he needed to think things through and asked me if it was ok if he continued ignoring me for the next two days. I said it was ok, but it was obviously not. I knew the only reason he was not talking to me was because he didn't want people thinking that he liked me. So on the second day of not talking to him, I lost my temper and yelled at him for not being able to shake off these rumors and that if he was really my friend he wouldn't let them bother him and he would still talk to me. Now I feel bad and I try calling him but he won't answer...I have no idea how to act tomorrow or what to say. Please help.
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Unfortunately, the only thing you can do right now is to leave him alone to cool off for a few days.
Right about now, he will be taking a proper interest in girls for the first time and the chances are he is worried having a close friend who is a girl might damage his potential to get a girlfriend because of all the gossip going round.
However, you have every right to be upset with his request for you to accept him ignoring you for a few days. A real friend should really be there for you despite the rumours, which are about you as much as they are about him. Really, you should have told him this when he made his somewhat unreasonable request in the first place. If you weren't happy with such an arrangement, you should be able to tell him this.
That being said, you agreed to it so you can't blame him for being upset with you for being angry with him over something you had agreed to. You had given him the go ahead and as far as he was concerned, that was all he needed to know.
Leave him be for now and wait for him to come to you, which he will do when he is ready. When that happens, try to explain to him that if he really is your friend then he can't get so worked up over stupid rumours. There really is nothing you can do to stop them if you want to stay friends because as far as your classmates are concerned, you can't be friends with each other and not have feelings beyond that. After this, he needs to make a decision. Either he can be the same best friend you have had for a long time now and be thick skinned enough to hold his head above the rumours or he can put a stop to the rumours by ceasing all contact with you. It all boils down to can he handle it or can't he? If eh can't handle it then you will have to let him go because he won't be much of a friend to you otherwise.
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Well he might actually think that you like him so if you have called many times then stop calling! If you haven’t, then call one last time and say that you are sorry for getting so upset at him, and that you were just mad because you are not used to not talking to him, then tell him to call you when he thinks its ok. Tell him that and don’t call him anymore after that or you might get him annoyed and then he might not ever talk to you again. It could take maybe a day or a week or two before he calls but he will so be patient if you see him say hi but then leave, if he wants to talk he should be the one to start the conversation. And when he does, apologize one more time and then talk to him, NEVER YELL, if he says something that upsets you tell him that you understand but (being really nice) then tell him how you feel. I am sure you 2 will be best buds again though it will feel a little awkward at first. So good luck And hope I helped
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