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I'm beginning to hate my sister
I am 15 this year and I have a younger sister who will be 12 next week. My sister has always had behavioural problems, she shouts and screams, she's rude, she's spiteful and bitchy to her friends and her family, the list goes on.
I've always had to put up with her behaviour but now I'm getting really unhappy. I am basically not allowed to spend time alone with my Mum because my sister gets jealous and has a huge tantrum until we let her come with us. My sister also gets away with swearing and being violent towards me but if I lay a finger on her I get into huge trouble because 'I am older and should know better'. For example, if me and my sister have a fight, it will be me who gets into trouble and not her.
My family have tried councilling, pills, punishments, everything on her but nothing works.
My best friend's family adopted two children, one of which befriended my sister. They have now fallen out and my sister keeps making spiteful websites about her. This is putting pressure on my friendship with my best friend and her family, which I'm really upset about because I've always got on really well with them and I was friends with them before they even adopted my sister's friend. I've spoken to my best friend and asked her not to let my sister affect us but I'm worried that her parents will hold my sister's behaviour against me.
I'm sick to death of my sister's behaviour and have stopped speaking to her. I completely resent her. I've tried talking to my parents numerous times about how I feel but it never helps.
I have no idea what I'm supposed to do anymore, it was bad enough when my sister was just upsetting my home life, but now she's started ruining my friendships too and I can't take that.
Please help.
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First I apologise for not getting back to you sooner. I have been out of town for a week.
I can certainly understand your resenting your sister. Seems like a perfectly rational response to an awful situation.
I wonder, has your sister ever been diagnosed with a problem? Or does she just do these things because she seems to get away with them?
I do believe if one doctor hasn't an answer you keep trying until you find one who does. But, you aren't her parent so that won't be of much help to you.
You said you had talked to your friend. That's good. She probably knows what your sister is like anyway, right? I don't really think you should worry to much about her. If she is a true friend she will know you aren't responsible for your sisters bad behavior.
What you could do, if you get along with her, is go to your friends mom and tell her whats happening.
She is involved in the whole thing in a way since your sis is being mean to one of her kids.
Let her know that you do not approve of your sisters behavior and wish you had the power to do something about it...you just don't.
As for your sister, get along with her as best you can. But, don't take any crap from her either. As a matter of fact, if it were me, I'd let my parents know that while you won't go out of your way to be mean to her or anything...you won't be babying her either. She definitely needs taken down a peg or two!
Good luck. :)
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