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I'm afraid i've missed my opportunity.
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i'm 15 and a half, female, sophomore in highschool, and i've like the same guy for a long time. Probably since september... about 7 and a half months now. I mean, some times i'll like him a LOT, and other times it'll be a crush. But it's always there. He's a junior btw. I think he's 17. Anyways a while back i told him how i felt... it was a few months ago. And it turned out he liked my friend "R". I dont' think R likes him, but he's always talking to her and stuff. I mean, R and him are friends to begin with, so i could be overreacting, but it seems like they flirt a lot.
Anyways R and this guy both went on this trip my school sponsored to europe. My best friend G also went on the trip. G hung out with this guy, and this guy's friends. When the guy i like wasn't around, she got around to talking to his friends. She, G, found out that the guy i like has never asked anyone out before in his life becuase he's too shy. Which, i guess makes me more at ease about R and him being in europe together. But a while ago i thought he liked me. Like little stuff he did i could kind of interpret as signs. At the time, i figured he knew that i liked him, so if he liked me, he would ask me out. Obviously not the case. So i guess he's going to his prom with this freshman girl, whom i've heard rumor he likes, but i'm not sure if he'll actually follow through with dating her. I think i missed my chance to ask him out before he started liking this freshman, and now i don't know if i'll ever get the opportunity. I'm really hooked on this guy. I think we'll get closer once Drumline starts (we're both on the line) but that's not till after summer, and i'll probably forget him by then, logically speaking. I'm a hopeless romantic, and i really don't want to lose this guy. We talk as friends, but not much mroe. I've never dated anyone before... so i'm not sure how to go about asking someone out, or if at this point if i should be asking this kid out. Obviously i should wait till after his prom, but even at that point i'm not sure what to do.
i guess i just need general relationship advice on this one.
Sorry it's so long. Any ideas?
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No, you have the rest of your life, so I don't see how you've lost the opportunity. I wouldn't ask him while he's dating, seeing someone. But like you said by that time you may be over him. Which tells me you may like him, but that’s all. Do your own thing and don't worry about it. What goes around comes around, it’ll come back up.
Good luck
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I, personally, don't think that you lost your oppertunity at all. It seems as if you are friends with this guy and that's how most relationships start out. What I would do, is wait until after prom and see what happens with him and the freshman. If nothing happens, start getting close with him and over time tell him you like him. This, most likely, will give him the confidence he needs to ask you out if he does like you.
If he does go for the Freshman, then don't worry about it. Stay friends with him. The summer is coming soon enough and usually relationships wont go all the way through summer, especially with a freshman and jouior. So you always have another year!
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i think until after prom there is no deffinite way of finding out if he likes you. once prom is over though, you can see if he dates the freashman or not. if he does then i think that the opportunity wont present itself again til drumline starts. however if he doesnt date the girl then go for it, just be like i like you alot, and have liked you for awhile, would you want to go out on a date with me, or would you want to see a movie or something. theres no better way to find out then asking him, plus the answer is honest, even a shy guy will tell you the truth, trust me ive been through this! i think that hes not going to date the freshman, sooo your going to be presented with the opportunity soon hopefully!!!! well good luck and tell me how it goes!!!! (or if you need more advice)
-katie
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I think you should start to get closer to this guy and let him know that your still interested. He could think that you don't like him in that way anymore. You should definately do this before prom. He doesnt sound like the type of guy who would turn you down if you went to talk to him or call him. Get to know him a little more so you can figure out if your feelings for him are for real or just a little crush. Don't be scared about having him reject you or what he may think because you and I know that this would be something you are going to regret in a few years. Don't wait for drumline, that may be too late and this freshman may become "more than friends" with him. Go for it and don't be scared, you have to take risks for the ones you care about. Let him know your true feelings and listen to what he has to say... Good luck :)
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i think maybe you should make your move before the prom because he might get to know her hangout w/ her more and end up really liking her and forget about you or find someone else because i have the same problem with you but if you follow this advice you might end up really happy..another thing if you don't know him good though you should really find out how old he really is what he likes if you guys like the same things so i give you the best of luck and go for it
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