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Having trouble locating part in vagina.
Hi,
I am a female from Canada seeking advice on a very embarrassing topic for me. My bf and I have started having sex but the time that we did it did not go very well because I cannot find the spot in my vagina where he can put his penis into. I have also masterbated several times, but have difficulty locating it with my finger as well, so I have stuck with clitoral stimulation. I can't use a mirror to locate it because I am visually impaired and touch is the best way for me to be able to find it, but no luck. I am not even sure exactly where it is. I am also unsure of who to go to for help on this?
Help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
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If you want to try to find it again yourself, then arm yourself with some lubrication and a locked door. The quickest way to find your vagina - though not the most sanitary, so perhaps just imagine this in your head - is to find your anus...and then slide your finger back along towards your vagina. It's the next hole along.
Of course, you don't want to get any poop-type stuff into or near your vagina, so perhaps you can start just below your anus.
Your other option is to just feel around. You should feel your two outer lips. If you gently spread these, you may feel another slightly smaller pair of fleshy lips. The vagina is in this area. It does NOT feel like a gaping hole. You may only feel a puckered indent, but this is the place.
If you are not sexually excited, it might be difficult to insert your finger. Basically, the hole starts at your vagina and is at an angle that points at your lower back. This can also make penetration tricky, as it's not an up-and-down hole.
If your partner is not visually impaired, perhaps you can allow him to look for the entrance to the vagina. As far as comfort goes, it's much better if he finds it first and perhaps practices the angle and stimulation with a finger or two. This will make you both more comfortable with the location of your vagina, as well as making sex more physically comfortable.
If you are still having problems, a gyno would be able to help you. You will need to start seeing a gyno yearly once you start having sex, so it can't hurt to go to her first. This will also help you learn about the different forms of birth control.
Best of luck. While it can be tricky at first, once you realize where the vagina is it's like riding a bicycle - you won't forget.
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