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My Best Friend Doesn't Want To Be Best Friends Anymore : [
Okay..well my "bestfriend" Megan* told me the other day that she didn't want to be friends and that she doesn't trust me. I know she reason and I didn't even do anything wrong, she just believes what other people tell her. I've told her I'm sorry multiple times but she ignores me (on the internet) and I can't even see her because I'm homeschooled. I love this girl to death and we have so many memories. I have helped her out in every situation and she has me, too. I don't know what to do, it's like she WANTS me to come crawling back to her. Like I said, I've told her sorry more then once. What to ya'll think I should do about this? Oh and ONTOP of all that, it's like shes replacing me with some other girl that she calls her bestfriend. I practiclly cryed myself to sleep last night, I miss her and I want her back.
Thanks so much if you can help! <33
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This sounds really hard for you to lose someone you really loved as a best friend.
My concern is that she was the one who ended the friendship because she says that you aren't trustworthy and she believes what other people tell her. That leads me to believe that you have been a good friend and that she's just getting rid of you because of what she's hearing. I know this is hard to hear, but if she were really your friend, she would get past those lies or rumors that were passed to her and trust you beyond it all.
That is what true friendship is. It's about coming to a friend first and confronting what you heard before you take action. It is weak and stupid to give in to rumors or lies, especially when it's about your best friend. If she decides what she hears from other people about you is more important than what she hears from you about you, then why bother with her?
I know you really want this friendship back, but she was the one who decided that it's no longer important to her. She failed and betrayed your friendship. It wouldn't be right if you kept bothering her about it. She doesn't deserve to be begged by you. At this point she doesn't deserve a true friend like you. I'm not saying that it isn't ok to miss her and want to be her friend, but you have to be the one to let her define what the friendship means to her and it sounds to me like it meant not as much as it means to you. She should be the one begging you for the friendship you both had.
What you should do is give it a break. Concentrate on your homeschooling and family and maybe your other friendships while letting this one cool off. If you really want this friendship back, then it should be up to her to come back to you. I don't doubt you both had great memories, and I don't think she wasn't a good friend, I'm sure she was, but now she's giving in.
-TheTeenGirl
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