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Best Friendship Slipping
I used to be best friends with this girl. I mean we were so tight, knew each other so well, and had so many good times, the kind of times you laugh you hard you are crying and can't breathe. At the same time I was good friends, but not best friends, with other people, especially this one other girl. I guess at the same time I was becoming really close to my now best friend, she was becoming really close to her boyfriend, his best friend (the guy I like), and this other girl. Almost everything was all about them, but I dealt with it for as long as I could knowing that my new best friend was there for me to complain to. While this wasn't the best situation, it worked until one day when I completely snapped. I started yelling at her and calling her names not worth repeating and saying I never wanted to be friends again. Since then I have really missed the good times we had and I've apologized seriously and heart feltly like 10 times, and this has been since Decemeber. She no longer hates me but we pretty much only talk if I'm asking to borrow a pen or something. I try calling her after school so we can gossip about each other's friends (in a way that nobody will get hurt) and to try to bridge the gap, but like today she tells me she'll call me back and never does.
Is there anything I can do to regain her friendship or doI just have to acknowledge that we will never be friends again?
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I hate to be the one to break it to you, but I don't think theres a good chance of having one of those really special friendships with her again. Letting her go on talking about her boyfriend and her other friends would probably get you in the situation you are in now (you two arent the same as you used to be) but it would happen slower. But yellign at her like that just probably made her feel horrible and probably made her think you arent a true friend. The only way you could have saved this friendship is if you said something to her like "I have been feeling really left out lately and our friendship isn't the same as it used to". If she replied with something like "Youre right I havent been including you in my life lets start over" you would know shes still youre true friend. but if she started arguing with you then you would probably be able to say it is over. But, in the end, some friendships just arent meant to be, even a really strong one like yours. But, some are. And everyone eventually finds one or more of those friends that stick with you for life.
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