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me and my girlfriend dont get along
im 19 and my girlfreind is 17 an at times she is in love with each other but it seems every few months a the drop of a dime she has no intrest in me what so ever. we have been of and on for 19 months now and i love her to death but i dont know if she not ready for a relationship or is just a nut case. Im really tired of going through this. we have so much in common and It would apear we were the perfict couple. should i just move on?
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I think the idea of a 'perfect' couple is something of a myth. After all, you are both very real people, and real people have flaws, quirks, and insecurities.
Have you discussed this issue with your girlfriend? She might not be aware she is acting this way, or of the impact it has on you. It's understandable that you are wondering what's going on, and only your girlfriend can provide the answers.
If this is a pattern that keeps happening - even after discussion - then you will need to do some serious thinking. Are you willing to stay with someone who acts this way? Do the positives outweigh the negatives?
Are you happy? That's really the ultimate question. Sometimes it's possible to genuinely love someone who does not love you back the way you need, and that's a very hard relationship to end as you'll hold out hope that things will change.
In order to be fairest to your girlfriend and yourself, you need to have a discussion about how you both feel about the relationship. Avoid blaming her or being judgemental - you can just focus on how YOU feel when she loses interest.
You both deserve to be fulfilled and deeply happy in a relationship, and I wish you the best - whatever you decide.
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