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long distance for years?
Hi! Yes, this is another relationship question... but it is different, so stay with me! Just read over my situation and tell me what you think! I'm 20/f by the way! Thanks! :)
When I was a senior in high school I met a guy, and we hit it off really well and ended up in a 2 year relationship. We broke up at the beginning of my 2nd year of college because we began to fight a good bit. We fought because I wanted to experience the single college life, and he was a year older than me, but not in college, and didn't know what he wanted to do with his life. We stopped talking for 4 months, and it was very hard at first but we both got over it after we cut off all contact. In December he left for the Army, and he called me to tell me. I wrote him a letter, and he called me. 4 months later, we now talk on the phone all the time. He is currently stationed about 700 miles from me, and is getting deported overseas soon. But our feelings for one another have come back in full swing now that we talk all the time. The differences we had are no longer there. We always say how we miss one another and this and that... but we both know that a long distance relationship for the next 4 years while he's in the army is unrealistic.
So basically our plan is to contunue talking, and emailing, and he will come home and visit as much as he can... and when he is home we will basically be together all the time, have sex... basically act like a couple. We can both see each other married in a couple of years, but do you think this is a good idea? We really care for each other, but is this worth it if it's going to make our lives so much harder? I mean it will be so hard having to see him for a few days, and then watching him leave for months. Do you think it is a good idea, or do you think cutting off all contact and taking the "easy way out" would be better? What would be the best thing for us? I appreciate your opinions... thank you!
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One thing you need to remember is that you two are not spending time together. When you don't have the option to see each other very much, the problems that used to be there don't present themselves as much. Not to say that they're not there anymore, I don't know anything about how your relationship REALLY is. I'm just saying, it's one thing to keep in mind.
Love sees no boundaries. This is going to be REALLY difficult for the both of you. It's so hard to maintain a long distance relationship and hardly be able to see each other, but it's also a good test of how strong your relationship is/can be. Don't take the easy way out if your feelings are that strong. Somewhere down the line, you'll regret it. Everything deserves at least one chance. Everyone needs to 'know'. So find out :) It might work, it might not, but if you don't try, you'll never know. I wish I'd take my own advice. I'm kicking myself in the butt for not doing what you want to do. Don't make the same mistake. Good luck <3
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I agree with the last person that responded. If you think this guy is your soulmate, by all means, go for it!! Don't let an amazing love pass you by.
Best of luck!!
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Well i can honestly say that im kind off in the same boat right now, minus the long distance. Me and my gf of 3 years broke up because of schooling reasons, she was almost done university and i got kicked out. So to make a long story short, we cut all ties, minus the phone once in a while, its been 3 months and we are now talking a litle more everyday....I can honestly see myself with her forever cause i love her, and as much as people tell me to get over her and get with some one else i refuse to do it because like i said this girl i smy soulmate....All im saying is a few years from now when i get married to this girl i will look back and realize that every litle sacrifice was worth it at the end...If you really feel for this guy, dont let distance get in the way of what might eventually turn out to be a life long commitment...Love is a hard game to play, however if the right partner has been found, fight like there is no tomorrow to make it last.
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All relationships take a lot of work and long distance relationships are never easy.
However I believe that if what you really want is to be together, then you can make it work.
You both seem to care about eachother a lot, so if you're willing to make some sacrifices for one another, then I think the two of you should give it a shot.
This is a very personal decision that only the two of you can really make. Discuss this with him and come to a decision you're both happy with.
All the best =]
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i think if you relly love him then like the long distance doesnt matter much.. like you've been with him for 2 years as you say or w.e n then yu broke up nd now are practically a couple then you probably like him lots.. and iif youy think that you two can deal with the distance.. n every relationship has itz ups and downs as you no.. so you should give it a try but then like 4 years is a long time.. but when you with him you know how it makes you feel..
so just think about how you would feel it you were together and then if you weren't..
so you have to decide if this distance will affect you and your life..
&hoPe i HeLPed.
-nEsmiira
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hey
you have to ask yourself... is it worth it?
if you truly love him the answer should be simple
but if your not sure... then give it a bit more time and the answer will surely come soon enough.
if you cut out all contact with him... would u miss him? would u still think about him? would you get over him?
if you keep talking to him will you start fighting agen? are you willing to keep letting him go?
think about it some more and im sure the answer will come to you
hope i helped
geetarist
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