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Staying away from the ex
I've finally decided to get over my ex girlfriend after being completely devastated over her dumping me for 6 months. I tried being just friends with her, but that didn't work. What made me decide to get over her was the fact she got a new boyfriend. I cut off all contact. I blocked her on my AIM buddylist then deleted her so I wouldn't see the love you for him in her profile, and the i love you's in her aways. I deleted her myspace so I will no longer have to see her picture. It's been 2 weeks with not a single word between us. She's in my gym class and I just stay away from her.
I'm sure she's noticed by now. I do feel so much better now, but I don't want this to be the complete end of us. I don't want us to never talk again, but I'm afraid if we make any contact whatsoever any progress I made will just go to waste, and I'll be missing her again. I'd like for us to someday be friends, but I don't know how long I should wait before I try that or if I even should try. She was a good friend before going out and even for a short time after we broke up. I'm not sure how I should approach this.
Can anyone help?
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I`m the same way with my ex boyfriend. He has a new girlfriend and I still like him so I try not to talk to him as much. But every time he talks to me I fall in love all over again. Anyways I think you should probably keep her blocked on everything possible. Maybe you could talk to her in gym when you see her. But also remember not to get to close. Try and hang out with other girls you might be interested in and once you start to like other girls or get a girlfriend then you can unblock her and ask her how shes doin. Still don`t get to close to her then. Be her friend but don`t let yourself get anymore then that. I really hope I helped. I know how it feels = Oh SNAP itZ Youh is my AIM screen name if youd like anymore help =]
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I would wait til you find interest in other girls and when you think of getting back together with her there is no thought in yur mind that says you should. I know how difficult that is, but you've got to get over her for your own good. Then when you know for sure you don't want her back and have interest in someone else, then I would be friends with her. I wouldn't be close friends and wouldnt hang out with her alone just incase cause old memories and thoughts can come back. Sorry hope that helped!!!
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Congrats on two weeks! No seriously, seems like a short time but it's really not. I think you should wait a year or two before talking to her again. That way, you would have clearly moved on and you just dont have any feelings for her. If you wait less than a year, feelings for her will probably come back just because you havent had the time to fully get over her. All you need is time. A year or two seems like a long time, it is...but get yourself busy with new girls, school, whatever and time will fly. Then after a while you can just drop by and say "Hey, haven't talked to you in a while...how's life?". I totally understand what your going through though. If I ever talked to my ex-obsession, I would be hooked in like one minute just because it hasint been that long. And sometimes old friends never become friends again, thats life. So dont be sad if you arent friends anymore. You might want to be friends with her now, but later on..you might be like "What was I thinking? I'm so over her" =) Good luck, hopefully I helped.
- Sherry
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