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alright well my best friend likes the guy i like. but the guy talks to me more. i liked him first and started talking to him first and now she likes him too. shes done this before too. she gets like every guy she wants. well i invited this guy to hang out and party with all my friends and he said yes. but im afraid that once we get there my friend will hang all over him and flirt with him. thats what she does to hook the guys that she wants. but i really like him and i already tried explaining that to her but she says that i talk to alot of guys and that she should get him. i dont even talk to alot of guys. i dont want him to start liking her which im afraid he will if she flirts with him at the party. im kind of shy and not as crazy as her. what should i do to make sure this guy doesnt start liking her and gets to know me better?
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It sounds like you have a pretend friend, because friends don't steal their friends' boyfriends or crushes. Unless there is a good reason to keep this other girl as a friend, I would just stop hanging out with her. You don't have to have a falling out or a fight, but just stop hanging out with her, or inviting her to do things. You don't have to even stop being friendly with her. If you are hanging out with your real friends, and she is around, you can decide to stay or leave. You can choose to tell, your other real friends about her and that you would prefer not to be around her. Pushing this too far and making this other person angry may cause bouts of retalliation like spreading rumors about your falling out with her, other rumors, etc.
Now onto the other issue. There is a boy that you like who likes you back. Why not invite him out to something more private like going to get coffee or a movie. You may even want to invite a select few people that you trust. You can tell them not to tell others about your plans to ensure that it doesn't get back to the pretend friend. -Thanh
My general disclaimer:
Any advice given is based on the limited information you were willing to share. Ultimately, you are the one with the most information about your situation and the best one to make a decision about it. I hope this helps. Good luck and feel free to keep me updated on the situation, give me further information, or ask me further questions about the same situation. I'd love to hear how everything turns out. -Thanh
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