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whats the age that i should have sex
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I don't know how old you are, what stage of life you're in etc, but this is what I think in general:
The way socitey has gone, as far as intimate relations is pretty daunting, it's pretty sad. WHat was once precious and special is now treated a casually as... I don't know, going to a movie or hanging out with friends. Sex is all over the media to the point where even very young pre-teens wonder more about it then they really should. I might sound a bit old-fashioned, but I'm in my early 20's, so hear me out...
If you're underage, in school, have not really experienced what it's like to balance a job, pay bills, keep classes at bay, hold good friendships and relationships within your family and elsewhere, have emotional stability, have sorted out any 'hindering' issues you may be caring with you, etc. Then, I really don't think you'd be ready enough to embark on such a deep relationship that sex would be involved.
Relationships are hard work, they can be quite emotionally taxing and time consuming, nevermind throwing sex in the mix.
Then again, of course, you can have a typical 'casual' intimate relationship that doesn't mean anything, but I don't recommend it AT ALL and I'm pretty sure you DON't want that. In the long run, it's not healthy.
Speaking of health, there are many health concerns realted with sex. You really need to stay aware of STD's and other diseases not normally associated with sex, like hepatitis for example. You cannot tell if someone has a disease by simply looking at them, and some do not show signs or symptoms for long periods of time either.
Pregnancy is another concern. I once knew a couple who became pregnant. They wanted to raise it together since they planned on staying together for sometime. They were both in school, one still living at home with a part time after school job, the other in college full time with no job. You could imagine the bind they were in; they felt stuck, trapped, confused, stressed out and emotionally strung out. It was difficult for them for a while.
I really feel that for a relationship to reach the 'sex' level, they should be committed to one another. They should be able to provide for one another and possibly a child if that were to ever come. (The couple I mentioned before used two methods of birth control by the way...) They should be comfortable enough with one another that they can easily discuss all of these things together; even to the point of going to the Dr.'s together to get tested, etc if need be.
Essentially, I really feel like the best solution would be to save sex for marriage; the kind of relationship where you would get all of the above and more. Then, you don't have to worry about pregnancy, emotional preparedness, finances, and many of the other factors that could cause problems.
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There's no set age. I've known 16 year olds who've treated it really responsibly, and 22 year olds who haven't at all. It obviously depends on a person's individual maturity level. Just wait until you're comfortable with it. If you're with a guy and you have to ask yourself if you should have sex with him, (assuming you're a girl??) then you probably aren't ready. Wait until you're really comfortable with your body and the person.
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Well its up to you. You have to be ready emotionally & phically. & you have to make sure its w/the right person you don't want to waste your first time you cant get that back ever. Plus ther is so much involved like pregnacy thats not fun. STD's all that. & if by chace you wont listen & do do the deed just make sure you are careful.Go to this site:
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it should answer some questions. & if you decide to ever "Do It" you can request an appointment & you dont have to have your parents there I belive.:)
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Being sexually active is a very big decision, and it must be gone about properly and responsibly. Sex is a serious issue with many major consquences. It's not all fun and games. You will risk pregnancy, you will risk STD's and you will risk AIDS. Not to mention what this will all do you to mentally. Now tell me, does that just scream fun to you? Doubt it. To put it bluntly, I don't think sex should be had until the participants are each emotionally and finacially stable enough to support a child on their very own.
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