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out of my league?
hi mrs. s...i don't really know you or your son, but i go to chs and your advice sounds helpful. I'm not exactly the coolest guy in the world, i'm a gamer, love to mess around with computers, and am more or less a somewhat geek. nevertheless, i managed to fall for a cheerleader. now, i told her a few months ago when she still had a bf that i was in love with her, and we were friends before that so it wasn't that bad. now, she split up with her bf, and whenever i try to talk to her, she avoids me. does she want to avoid me asking her out or something? i don't know what to do. i really love her and can't ever stop thinking about her, but she doesn't seem to want to be on the same planet as me. help?
-confused?
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Hi! Thanks for giving me a shot at helping you with this! And BTW - I make a very good living with computers and I not only WORK with guys like you - I AM like you! And for the record - COMPUTER PEOPLE/GEEKS ARE AMAZING!!! (haha) So I don't see any reason you can't "get" your cheerleader!
Ok so with THAT said - the hard part about giving advice is that when someone asks me a question, I know I'm getting PART of the information I need in order to be effective with my advice. If you go back and read your question, I think you will see what I'm talking about. Based upon the information you wrote to me - I'd say that YOU don't think she likes you and YOU already are feeling rejected. And my dear, that is at least 1/2 of your REAL problem right now!
No girl, boy, or organism (joke) is attractive when they lack confidence. Since you mentioned computers - look at Bill Gates - he isn't exactly Matthew McConaughey (yummy!) but he could have pretty much anybody he wants. So let's start with building up your confidence...get out a piece of paper and write down at least 10 reasons you would make an amazing bf for this young lady. Read it and RE-read it until YOU realize how lucky she is that she has won your heart. Now - start with her FRIENDS. Trust me - if the FRIENDS don't approve - you don't have a chance. So win their hearts over. Be careful though - never bring her name up to them. Never tell them how much you like her or want her. Just CHARM the friends. They will "sell" you to her without even realizing what they are doing. After you get that little "project" going - start project #2 - work on HER. Never EVER tell her you want her or love her! This is CRITICAL! At your age - most of the "fun" in relationships, is the actual CHASE. If she knows you are a sure thing, you will be "boring" to her. If you don't believe me, look at which guys have the most luck with the ladies...they are usually the "pigs" or the "playas" because these guys just can't be CAUGHT. Girls LOVE that and they want to feel SPECIAL. Girls (and Guys too!) need to feel that the person they end up with makes them the envy of all the other kiddos out there.
Ok. So what do you think? Can you do this? I know it sounds like a game - but in reality, "dating" and "relationships" ARE a game. They are complicated and they are challenging. But isn't that what makes life fun and interesting? So as you go through all this - remember - HAVE FUN!!!!!!!! You have the rest of your life to be married. As frustrating as all this can be - ENJOY it!
Thanks for the question! This one was a lot of fun for me to answer! And keep me posted! I love hearing these types of stories. IM me at SteeleSlavsMom if you want! My away is usualaly up but I'm usually around and recognize that "aim beep." Good Luck! Love, Mrs S
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