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My boyfriend
OK me and my bf were going great when we first started going out, and i mean it was like perfect, then he started acting like really different and its starting to bother me becasue he is acting like hes not interested in me or that i like dont matter anymore, i like need to know if i should break up with him, ask him wuts going on(i already did and i got a shitty asnwer)or like just live with it. i mean i really like him i just dont know wut to do.
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Tell your boyfriend and really tell him how you feel, maybe somethings wrong with him but if he all of a sudden changed and gives you another "shitty answer" then break up with him. Seriously, he should treat you right by acting like you matter to him; but maybe something is wrong just talk to him again before you do anything. good luck.
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thats what happened to me in my last relationship...i say you break up with him because you deserve the guy who is interested in you & treats you right. maybe he will pick up his act & try to get you back. [it will work if he likes you like you deserve to be liked]
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Dear Don't Know What To Do,
It's great that you really like your bf, but if you don't like yourself too, it's all for naught! For whatever reason he's now acting differently toward you, might this be something you should pay attention to? Perhaps he needs some distance, or feels that things have moved along too quickly; whatever the reason, you won't know unless you ask him what's going on. As for his "shitty answers," this may be his way of telling you he's not ready for anything serious. Do you really want to be with someone who can't (or won't) discuss something you're concerned about?
As for things being "perfect" in the begining, well that's called the "honeymoon period." For most new romances, the beginning (6 to 18 months) is usually pretty problem free, and only after the relationship gets past this begining stage will you get to the nitty gritty of your relationship.
*Listen, all issues and problems are real opportunities for you and your bf to learn something about your selves and each other...yes, even if that means that one or the other is not ready for a serious relationship! So, how you go forward is important. If you start to cling or feel desperate, it's a sign that you have some issues you need to work on before you get too serious with anyone.
It's unfortunate that most people don't understand that until you really understand yourself, you won't be ready to venture forward into a serious relationship. TV, movies, videos, etc. all make it seem so simple and care free, but relationships are work too. MOSTLY, relationships are about discovering who you are, which most people don't understand.
I wish you well. Don't settle for less than you deserve. No bf, no matter how cute, great, or whatever is worth selling yourself short.
Best Wishes,
Earth Mother
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