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Opening a Pandora's Box and Avoiding Confrontations.
I followed most of the advice given to me by friends and ADVICENATORS columnists regarding this friend of mine. He sort of opened a "pandora's Box." We were friends then he started to give hints that we can be more than that...Thing is, he is starting to avoid me because of that? I felt he owes me an explanation because I'm pretty sure we've gone beyond friendship at this stage...Aloof and cold that's how I describe him nowadays? I'm starting to entertain ideas that he might not be into me really? It's sooo complicated and it hurts so much...
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I'm sorry to hear that you're in pain. But I have to tell you that you haven't really asked a question here! What do you want us to tell you?
All I can do is guess.
We don't know your friend personally, so we don't have any way of knowing how he feels about you. There are all sorts of possibilities.
Often the best way to find out how someone feels is to talk to them, of course. But some people, boys in particular, find it hard to communicate. So if talking doesn't work, try email, a phone call, IM, or even an old-fashioned letter.
If none of that works, I'm afraid you'll just have to let it go; you can't force someone to communicate with you against their will. Not without using force, that is, and of course that isn't an option in this case.
So if nothing else works you'll need to let him go. Let HIM decide when, or if, he's going to talk to you. Get yourself busy, so you can't spend too much time thinking about him.
Life goes on, so make sure that *your* life goes on, too. In time, the pain will fade and almost totally disappear.
Good luck!
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