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me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months and everything is going great...but his step mom, his real mom died when he was young, totally wants me dead! ive only met her once. she was smiling and everything at me but then when he went to invite me over he told me that she hated me. his dad and brother love me but his step brother and sister hate me to. i never did anything wrong to them. i have barely ever talked to them. his dad told me not to worry about it because she(his step mom) is just upset because her son doesnt have a gf and is jealous. what can i do to get her to like me? i rate 5's.
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Truth? There might not be anything you can do to change her mind about you. I know that sounds really tough but some people get to be very set in their ways and if they take a dislike to someone, they might be too stubborn to change their point of view.
If she really is jealous, she will be hoping that your relationship will crash and burn. Unless that happens, there's probably not going to be anything that you can do that will make her happy.
Given this, I don't think it's worth you spending your time trying to impress her or get her to like you. The best thing you can do right now is to rise above it and focus on the point of all this. Your boyfriend. If his Stepmother doesn't like you, it doesn't matter because it's not her relationship and if she really cares about your boyfriend, she will come round in time by herself. This should also happen with his Stepbrother and sister.
In the meantime, try not to worry about it too much. His biological relative is the one you need to worry about and he's already made it clear that he likes you. You don't need to do anything about the jealous step-family unless they start behaving badly towards you. Then you will need to step up and say something to them about it.
Just carry on with your relationship as normal and ignore their feelings on this occasion. They're based on petty jealousy and not worth worrying about.
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Yeah, it definately sounds like she's jealous in one way or another.
Her behaviour is pretty immature. I doubt you'd have much luck trying to win her over. Ignore any bad behaviour on her part, but while you're at her house try to be polite and thoughtful (offer to lay the table, help cook, tidy plates) and don't act too snugly with your boyfriend. If you hear that she still doesn't like you, don't let it worry you.
If you have any female friends, perhaps you could introduce them to the other brother???
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Well if you never did anything to hurt her, you should just be as friendly as possible, so if someone tries to blame it on you, you won't have anything that you did wrong. All that matters is that you respect her even if she is being mean to you. Your boyfriend's dad and brother like you, so you don't have anything to worry about that. She doesn't have any reason not to like you, so just keep being respectful and polite, and she won't have anything to be mad at you for.
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make sure you don't say anything you wouldn't want your own parents to hear around her.
also, try not to be that close with him when your around her because you don't want her to call you a slut or anything.
always just try and be nice and maybe compliment her once an while.
maybe once you guys get closer you could even go shopping together or something?
hope i helped
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