i really like this guy! and he liked me back i think cause he always simled at me! i kinda ignored it but i still talked to him on the bus (he's in 8th grade and i'm in7th) and laughed at his jokes and we were getting along pretty good untill a friday when he sat next to me and asked me a lot of questions. i answered kinda weird i was really shocked i mean the questions where like totally normal like do you like somebody or are you good in school whatever and i only answered with yes or no and then he said im mean because of that he was like: why are u being so mean to me your not answering my questions! and then he asked: soooo do you wanna be friends? i couldnt say anything cause he got interrupted by a friend and then my busstop came so i never answered that question! but the thing is that a week later he told me he loves me and i was REALLY shocked then and i was like : uuhhmm to bad and i know that was really mean! so then we had vacation for about 2 weeks and when school started he didnt talk to me or anything and well i also ignored him but he still looed at me. then i called him and i was like:
peter:( thats the guy im talking about) hello
me: hello my name is cornelia can i please talk to peter
peter: yeah
silence
peter: i am peter
me: ohhh sorry uhm i yeah remember me cornelia?
peter: uhuh
me: well im really sorry for being so mean to you lately
peter: yeah...
silence
me: soo is everything ok again?
peter: yeah
me: ok than
silence
peter: bye
me: uhh bye
that was it and well he really acted weird and since that happened he IS weird!!! he only lookes at me when im not looking and i became kinda angry cause he was like an idiot at the phone and in school so i just ignored him! so then once he looked my way really sad and i almost started crying but today on the bus he totally ignored me again and i really dont know what to think anymore! i dont get it what is he thinking??? he ignores me all the time and it really hurts and well now im doing the same thing......what should i do now? i tried to talk on the phone but well you know.....he acted like weird and does he still like me? i would do anything to get those days back when we where like kinda friends and when he smiled at me and always said hi! so maby you guys know what hes thinking! guys are like a mystery!!!
EricStarr answered Sunday March 26 2006, 8:20 am: Guys are a mystery? He's thinking the same thing about you. But, that's ok. Your both learning social skills in dealing with the opposite sex.
Here is what hes thinking.... First, you were a bit shy so he took that as you didn't like him. Then he got the nerve to tell you he "loved you" (ok big mistake on his part but hey, he's learning too) you got nervous and shot down his confidence again. When you called him, he's thinking "Umm what's with her? is she going to slap me down again? He obviously likes you since he keeps looking at you, but hes scared to death of getting rejected again.
What I suggest is when you see him just smile and say hi. When he's comfortable with you again, talk to him. If he or any other guy you like says "I love you" or something similar in the future, rather than shoot them down, say something like
"Aww I'm flattered, You seem like a nice guy, lets be friends and see where it goes" The trick with people is to be honest while building them up, rather than putting them down.
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