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Helping a friend
Hi everyone!
My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old High School student with a situation. I have a female friend who is stuck in a pretty tough life. I don't know what to do. She was put in a psychiatric hospital for about two weeks about a couple months ago, and she told me that the doctors are going to put her back for at least 6 months to a year.
The situation is that her family is pretty messed up. They don't even really care about her that much. I am her best friend at the moment, and I have and am helping her get through these tough times.
She really likes me, and I really like her, and she and I want a relationship when things clear up. The problem is that she might end up in the psychiatric hospital again or she might be moving far away.
I don't know what to do. She is getting over a lot of her issues and problems and putting them in the past behind her. I am trying to get advice as to what I can do to maybe convince the doctors or something along those lines so she doesn't have to go away to the psychiatric hospital and maybe give things a chance to clear up.
I don't know her doctors or counselor personally, but I am just desperate to try anything to change their minds. Thanks for reading this. I apologize for it being so long. Thank you again.
Todd
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im sorry this is totally not what you want to hear, but in order to give her the best life possible, she might have to be sent to the hospitals to get better. my advice to you is to support her and let her know that everything is gonna be alright. if she ends up going to the hospitals, you should visit her (if its not to far) and/or call her and send her letters. just make her feel special! she WILL get through this! help her to think positive and let her know that you will always be there for her AND MEAN IT!!! good luck to you both! <3 amyy
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If your truly care for her (which I know you do, you said it) then you would have to find it in your heart to wish her to go to that hospital and get help.
I know that would be hard for you to do, but you both can't have anything right now it seems other than just friends. If the doctors say she needs to go, she needs to go. Their opinion in this is what matters, not yours.
I know that has to be tough to swallow, but you need to accept the fact. You can't keep her to yourself when she has a chance at getting a better shot at life and turning the life she has around.
I would really hope you think about this and please, please realize she needs to go. Maybe things will be the same between you two if she comes out, maybe not. But your focus right now should be getting her better, and if the doctors say going to that hospital will help make her better, then she needs to go.
I hope I helped. And I hope you get through this time alright. You have a prayer by me.
-Ryan
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You don't want to keep her from the hospital. You really don't. The doctors think she needs to go there for a reason.
You will miss her while she is gone but her problems will not go away on their own. Encourage her to get the help she needs. You can write her, maybe even call her while she is gone.
She is not ready for a relationship beyond being friends right now. A person has to care for themselves before they can really care for another. As much as you both may want that, she has issues to resolve first.
You won't convince the doctors to change their minds. You have to accept that she is going to be getting help...which will only benefit her in the future. Be a friend and help her accept it.
Its going to be tough but you need to.
Best of luck.
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