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Obbsessed
This is in the past, but i just wondered if you think its normal, or if you think i was obsessed. Well, at the beginning of last year i saw this guy, and i knew there was something special about him. I didnt know him, i didnt even think he was cute, i just felt something for him, i saw him on my bus by the way. So, i soon found out about him, and since hes in the year below me i basically 'stalked' him and took every oppurtunity to smile or say hi, and started putting 'stalking' him before everything else. In the end i knew i had to ask him out, but he said no. I was devestated. I would cry every night because i knew i couldnt be with him, but whenever i saw his face or heard his voice i would be so happy. Whenever anyone mentioned him or even being in the same room as him made me feel relaxed and happy. During the weekends i would look forward to monday when i could get back to school and see his face, and he was all i ever thought about, i couldnt concentrate at school - it was like i was addicted to him or something. I still have feelings for him but i knew i couldnt carry on like that so i just had to stop looking at him or following him around, and i kno it was for the best. I just wondered, do you think i was obsessed, or i was in love, or, just tell me what you think about it all. Please, sorry its so long, and, thanks xxx
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I think you just had a really big crush on him. I don't know if I'd call it love.
But, theres nothing abnormal about this behavior toward a guy you like. Every girl has a guy they really like and want to see, and they eventually find somebody else or learn to get over that person and know that they can live without them. But, just because he turned you down, it doesn't mean that you aren't attractive or pretty or a different girl all of a sudden. It happens. Later on, you'll likely face a situation where a guy is really into you, but you aren't so much into him and you'll have to reject him.
All you really need to do now is exactly what you said at the end of your question. Don't carry on with him and stalk him. Start moving on with yourself. This is about you now, not him. And you're right, it's for the best for you to stop making this guy part of your life when he can't be.
For the times you feel upset about this guy, confide in a journal or your friends to help you through this. I promise you that if you stop stalking him, and stop talking to him, you will eventually move on.
If you need more help concerning this problem or another one, don't hesistate to ask me. I don't care if it's long, just as long as I can help.
-TheTeenGirl
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