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Didn't get to go to my dad's funeral...
My dad pasted away Thursday and his funeral was on Saturday (yesterday). I was out of town when he died and my mom told me that if I wasn't able to get back on Saturday before the funeral that she would post-pone it. I was able to find a plane back Friday night so I called her and told her that she didn't need to post-pone anything.
Well, my plane was delayed until Saturday morning. When I called her then, my Aunt picked up (my dad's sister not my mom's) and told me that it was too late to push anything back because everything was ready. I asked to speak with my mom and she wouldn't let me. I couldn't reach anyone else so I was forced to miss it! If that isn't the most fucked up thing ever I don't know what is. My mom didn't even know about it until I didn't show up.
All my family from my dad’s side are assholes and the only thing they ever wanted from my dad was his money. We're pretty well off and they've visited him at the hospital while he was sick. They came maybe once or twice in 7 months. And I HATE that people like that that didn't even deserve to be at the funeral or even know a great man like my dad got to be there and I didn't!
Everyone came over last night to "be there for us" and my dad's family stood away from everyone else and sat in a circle by themselves joking and stuff. They didn't even try to comfort my mom who couldn't get off the couch all night because she couldn’t stop shaking and crying. Her siblings were the only ones around her.
I couldn't go downstairs where everyone was because of them. I didn't want to see any of them. I know that upset my mom and my brother and sister even more but I just couldn't.
I'd give anything to have my dad back. His family can take all of our money, cars, house, whatever they want if we could have him for a few more years. I was taking to my brother about that and my aunt heard (the one that told me it was too late to post-pone the funeral) and she told me that I needed to stop being selfish and that I should be happy that I at least have those things. So I told her to shut up and leave my house. My mom heard that and told me to go back up stairs.
I don't know what to do. I wish it were them that were gone not my dad. I don't know what to do.
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First, I'm really sorry for your loss... we all go through this at one point in life... I know its hard to lose a parent, I lost my mom a few years ago, and I still haven't gotten over it... but you have to accept the fact that there are people like this in the world and that they will try to hurt you, but there is nothing you can do about it, they will eventually die.... I know it hurts, but you'll learn how to live with it, and don't wish for anyone's death, because that is not a good thing to do, specially for your head... just let them talk... everything they say comes in a ear and goes out the other... you don't have to listen to them anymore, they're not your family, just don't be disrespectful, so you don't get in trouble with your mom... I hope this helped
<3 Ms. Nancy
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