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hi! well im 15/f
and lately me and my friend have been hangin out with these guys we just met! well not exactly..i mean we know who they are but we just hang out with them for the first time! and i can never tell my parents the truth ..that im hangin out with guys because they like NEVER let me hang out with guys. they are always like how do you know them? and im like school..then they are like well how come we dont know who they are. and i dont do the whole bringing them to the house and meet my parents thing..our family isnt like that! my dad is very protective of me..because im the only girl in the family im his little girl! i have one older brother..and they let him do whatever he wants with whoever he wants! but i dont ever get to hang out with guys because im a girl. i dont communicate well with my parents at alL! what can i do to help this situation?
i will rate high!
thanks :)
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The problem here is all because of the lack of communication. If you want to fix this problem, without lying (it is IMPERITIVE that you don't lie to them about something like this. Other than being dangerous, it will also land you in more trouble than it's worth if you get caught!) you will need to open up those lines of communication and tell them about him.
If you explain to them that they are really nice guys that you are just friends with and nothing more, that's a good start. However, if they are really that protective of you then they will NEED to meet them before they can give you the okay to hang out with them. Rather than make it formal, you could wait til the next time you're hanging out and then ask if they want to come back and hang out at your place for a bit. Get some food and drinks or something.
This would allow your parents to meet them 'grill them', if you like but the atmosphere will be a lot less formal.
I know it's not what you wanted to hear but this really is going to be the safest way to deal with this situation. If you try to tell your parents about them without giving the chance to meet them personally then you can guarantee it will be a straight 'no' because they will worry you're hiding something. So bring them round and show them you have nothing to hide and they're just friends.
Good luck!
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Hey,
Well I say you talk to your parents and let them know that your not their little baby anymore. That your getting older and boys are gonna start coming around more often. But first you have to earn their trust, so that they'll see that your a responsible young Adult. So that means, NO MORE LIES!!! Although lying to your parents is wrong, sometimes you have to lie in order to get your way. I mean I'm not going to deny it, I lie to my mom too. But only if I know it won't harm me in the long run. You want your parents to trust you and give you some freedoms, give you some space. Just tell them, that your a level-headed girl, that knows how to act around guys. And if that doesn't work stress to them about how un-fair it is that your brother can do w/e he wants. It's gonna take your parents a while to get used to the idea of their little girl with boys, but they'll come around. Hope I helped :)
♥Momo
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Well.. you do have quite a situation but i think i can help.
Goal: Gain your Parents Trust
Next time you hang out with the guys, tell your parents about it. You dont have to tell her every single thing. But just the main things.And explain to them that they are just friends.
And just hang out with them. dont worry about it. Youll be fine.. Be true to urself
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