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the ex of my bf
THx for your advice ..I really needed it.
I understand completly what you are trying to explain to me ....And I honestly think that my bf still feels something for her ...Eh never told me this but HE don''t need to talk to me for me to notice some things ..Like everytime he is on the pc he go and looks photo of the girl on her site ..(he said to me once that he did ths becuase he want to see if the girl post some new picture of their son,sinds she never send pictures to him.....TO me is very strange,I did't belief him)
I don't want to be the destroyer of no family and I really care for this guy to much to force him to be with me ...But my point is I am not sure that this girl is really in to him ..I think she just want a daddy for her child sinds things went very wrong with her ex boyfriend
She even told me that she was having a affair with this guy when she still was having a relationship with my bf.
I really don't think she is really into him and if she were I really don't think they gone take along because she has a strong character and he is very soft haerted and she constantly hurted him with her stupid words ...
The last thing I want is this guy to be hurt ...I really love him a lot
(You know what it's funny it's the first time I say I love him ..I always say I care for him)
I don't want you to get me wrong but If I have to seperate from him to let him be more happy than he is with me ..I will
But I don't think this girl is really into him..she just is seeking for the daddy of her child ,not for the man she felt in love with.
My relationship is going great ..he is happy ..I am happy but I dont know if it's gone change when this girl show up with his son..
I talk to him and he said that he is happy with me and he wont go back with her because he has everything he wants when he is with me.
I had been through a lot in life and I've become very realistic ...if he is not for me ..oke he is not I will have to go over it and start my life all over again..
But what if he is for me ...should i fight for him...What should i do ...how should I fight?
please answer me back
May the Lord bless you.
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I can see your point and it is a horrible situation to be forced into.
You're concerned because his ex-girlfriend mistreated him in the past. The main thing you're going to have to do here is trust that your boyfriend knows what is best for him. After all, if most people have been through such an experience, they would want to avoid it a second time round. If he wasn't happy with her and the way she treated him, I doubt he will put himself back in that situation.
You want to know what you should do....okay... The best suggestion I can come up with right now is to just be yourself. I know that's HORRIBLEY cheesey but he needs to love you for you and not for someone you're trying to be. If you try to hard to be what you think he wants, you risk getting it wrong. You KNOW he cares for you so be YOU because at the end of the day, if he wanted someone else then he would be with someone else. Also, if he really is the guy for you, then you have nothing to worry about.
Of course, one possibility is that when he see's her again, the fact that she has come all that way just to try to get him back when he is happy with you could in fact, make the situation worse for her. To a lot of men, nothing is worse than a jealous ex! And you have to consider that he was with you before her, was with her for a while but still came back to you. That seems to imply he realised how happy he was with you.
To be honest, my absoloute feeling on the matter is that you shouldn't worry. You seem like a really lovely person and I can't imagine he would pick someone as apparently spiteful and jealous as his ex over you. You just need to ensure that while she comes off as the picture of jealousy and spite, you can come off as the innocent current girlfriend and make him realise what he would be missing without you.
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