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Well if asked question on here about love before.
I was in love with this guy for like year and a half i started getting over him 3 months ago well i am now falling hard for this guy at my church. I was going to talk to one of the girls online that are from church see if she could help me out alittle bit. Well 2 min before i was about to talk to her i found he has a girlfriend. I dont love him but all i want to do is cry now it just doesnt seem fair. Nothing ever works the way i want something to work. especially when it comes to love. I serious just want to give up on love it self. It took all my strength to start liking another guy and as soon i let my self go i get hurt.
I really dont know what to do. I dont want to hear move on and wait he'll come around thats a crap answer i get it everytime and it doesnt work. Thanks.
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I'm sorry; you've certainly had a harder time than you deserve. And there aren't any really great answers, unfortunately.
I'd say, though, that what you need to do is start looking for guys in places where you're likely to find them - and where the guys are likely to be single, unattached, and looking for a girl.
It would be helpful to know your age. If you're 18 or older, dating sites are one option. I recommend joining two, one for people who are into your favorite hobby or interest, and another more general one. Personally I had good luck with Match.com; I met my wife there.
Since you seem to get emotionally involved before you make a move, dating sites might work well for you. I will say, though, that getting attached like that does seem like a prescription for a lot of broken hearts. I realize that it might be hard, but it would probably be a good idea to try to slow your heart down, if you know what I mean.
You could also get out more. Church isn't a bad place to meet guys, but as you've already learned, some of them (probably most) are going to already be involved with someone, or married. You might try volunteering, or joining a club, or taking an evening class.
In any case, please don't give up. You could easily spend YEARS bitter and alone if you give up, and no one deserves that. Happiness is worth all the perseverance you can give it.
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This is a bit difficult to answer. I'd like to ask how long have you known this guy from church for? The way your wrote it up here, it seems like you might have just met him not so long ago. No one is saying that you have to choose how you feel that way for, you really can't do that. As for being hurt, that's something that only you know about. It's hard at any time feeling a way for someone and then finding that there is something in the way. Had you felt this way about him even before all of this and it just grew into a crush? Is it someone that you looked to after you were getting over your ex? Sometimes good people are that are good to talk to are the easiest to get along with and start having feelings for them. It takes us all different amounts of time to get over things. I am not saying to get over it, but you just have to deal with reality. That is, he is with someone else, it's up to you to continue allowing yourself to feel this way toward him or to take an active roll to help yourself change. Maybe go out with other friends as well, get your mind off of him. As for him coming around, if we are going to be realistic, he just might not. It is up to you on how you want to deal with all of this. I can only tell you that from my own experience sticking around and waiting getting to being a bit hurtfull, possibly more than what it needs to be in the first place.
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