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Straight Guy as work possibly Bi Curious
I have this guy that I work with interdepartmentally and we have been friends for about 2 months. He came to my birthday party which was at a gay bar and he bought me a drink. I jokingly said that I would protect him if any guys stared to hit on him. He said that doesnt bother him. He came out with me to the gay bar about two more times after that. Well doing all this time going out a rumor got started in his department that we were going out. It kinda pissed him off and he told me he was going to tell everyone that we were sleeping together.
Now this past week he asked me to go the the gay bar when I told him I didnt know if I could make it he seemed disappointed. So what do I do? To top it all off he is married but going through a divorce
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Although it is wonderful that you are paying so much attention to his feelings and possible attention it always annoys me to read a question where is doesn't state the most important thing for me as an advice giver: Your feelings.
You haven't spoken to him. You haven't mentioned asking him about his sexuality or even a question so simple as "Hey, why do you like that gay bar so much?"
Stop speculating on his feelings. If you don't start a more serious discussion about them, you might never know.
As for what you should do, that rather depends on what it is you want to do.
Are you interested in something with him? Do you find him attractive? Or are you just a friend who wants to help him through this tough time?
Give your own feelings some actual thought for a moment and plan your next move based on them instead or what he maybe, kind of, sorta, might be thinking.
No matter what you feel though, I think you are entitled to a few friendly non-judgmental questions about the way he is behaving, because he sounds as confused by his actions as you are and an open conversation might really help him sort things out.
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