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Love triangle?

Question Posted Saturday January 28 2006, 4:40 pm

First off, im sorry this is so long i really need advice thou, and i rate high

My boyfriend and I have been together a LONG time and i love him so much. but sometimes he can be a pain. His best friend (whos a girl) and him are really close. He talks about her all the time, and whenever i ask him questions about if he had to be with someone else who he would be with he says her. They've liked eachother before and they flirt like crazy! They say they dont love eachother but i cant help but worry. also their planning on going to the same college, and my boyfriend and i are really serious and plan to stay together throw college even though we will be attending diffrent schools. and we know we will have breaks but he says he knows he will probably have feelings for her at one time. I broke up with him at one point but i realized how much i love him and shouldnt worry. When i try to talk to him he gets really angry and i dont know what to do. thank you soo much!

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Ashtobomo answered Monday January 30 2006, 8:52 pm:
hmm... it doesn't sound to me like he likes you all that much. If he doesn't listen to you when you talk to him about things that are bothering you, then I don't know how strong your relationship really is.
As for his best friend, it sounds to me like he likes her.... more than a friend.

If a guy wants to be with you, you shouldn't have to take breaks.

Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.
- Alan Watts

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xo_Lime_Celebration_xo answered Saturday January 28 2006, 8:01 pm:
Try not to be jealous of her. If it's really bugging you, then talk to him privatley. Says it's very important. Tell him not to get angry at you and just tell him how you really feel. Try not to sound so eager. Express your feelings to him. Don't hold back. Maybe both of them are just really good friends. Maybe they knew eachother since they were born!


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kailey answered Saturday January 28 2006, 6:49 pm:
My initial advice to you changed once I read that "he knows he will probably have feelings for her at one time". I'll still give you that, then update it concerning that line.

Don't be jealous of his friends. Would you be jealous of their closeness if his best friend was a girl? I seriously doubt that. Of course it's human nature to get jealous sometimes, but as long as you trust him, don't worry about it. What you perceive as flirting really could just be friendly behavior; despite the fact that they liked each other at one point, the past is the past. Leave it there. It's understandable that he gets angry about it, I've experienced firsthand how frustrating it is when someone misinterprets your relationship with another person.

As for the feelings thing..THAT you need to talk about. One one hand, at least he was being honest, but on the other..I don't know what to tell you. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'd be willing.

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