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my boyfriend ran away from home today...
Hey y'all...well, i need help to deal with this but i cant really get help from people i know because they know my boyfriend. Well, the other night, my boyfriend got into a lot of trouble. He was with one of his "friends" who had a gun on him and his friend used the gun in a hold up-type thing. Then the guy that my boyfriend's friend stole from, told the police it was both of them even though my boyfriend didn't do anything...he was just there. But i guess that'd be guilty by association. But anyways...then my boyfriend went home and stuff that night and him and his parents are always fighting. so, i guess that pushed him over the edge. he tried to run away last night but he got caught in his sister's car. He's only 15 so he doesn't have a license. But now his license is suspended until he turns 18. But then he got like 90 hours of community service and stuff. But then today when i was talking to him, his dad started talking to me and asking me a bunch of questions from mason's cell phone. i told mason that his dad wouldnt stop talking to me and then my boyfriend was like....i'll call you later. Then his dad told me that he ran away and that it was all because of me. Is that really my fault? But now i dont know what to do because i love him so so much!! But I dont want anything bad to happen to him. And if he stays out on the streets...what good will come from that? But please...somebody help me!!!
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If your boyfriend was with a guy when he used a gun to do an armed robbery, he is probably technically an accessory. That can be a difficult thing for even loving parents to cope with, so it's pretty understandable that if he and his parents always fight that they would go absolutely troppo at him for being involved in anything like that. Or perhaps they didn't even know yet, and he was just edgy because he thought somehow they might know. It doesn't really matter now, except to say that it's understandable that your boyfriend would feel so much pressure that he did something a little irrational.
None of that is your fault, unless for some reason he, or his friend carried out the robbery to impress you or something. In which case it's not really your fault anyway, and I would be pissed off at your boyfriend for being so stupid about impressing you. I don't think that's the case.
Is your boyfriend still out on the streets? I'm not quite sure from your question whether your boyfriend ran away again, or if he's just up for community service, and his parents are really mad at him. I'll presume that he ran away again.
What are your parents like? Would he be allowed to stay with you for a while? At the moment, it sounds like the most disruptive thing that is happening to your boyfriend is his parents. You made them sound like really agro, controlling people. Granted his friend hasn't exactly helped him out, but if his parents had supported him, then the worst thing he would've gotten was the community service. His license wouldn't have been suspended, because he wouldn't have been driven to take his sister's car.
His girlfriend (You) wouldn't have had to worry so much about his wellbeing because she would have known that he was alright, and his parents were taking care of him. And he probably wouldn't have run away again.
So, to put everything cohesively:
None of it's your fault, and the best way to help your boyfriend at the moment is to support him in coping with his parents, and anything that happens because of the hold-up, or taking his sister's car. You should probably be patient with his parents, even if they're acting like total dropkicks, because he has to live with them for the time-being. If things get really bad then perhaps you should try to avoid them, or if he was fed up with them, perhaps he could arrange to become independent, and rent a flat, or live with another family.
If he's out on the street at the moment, then you can probably help him by (does he have his phone with him?) letting him know how much it means to you that he's ok, and trying to help find him somewhere that he feels safe going for the short term until he can go home.
Hope what I've said has made some sense :)
-K
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