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best friend's love life. haha.
my best friend is a guy. he likes one f my friends and wants to ask her out. his last two girlfriends were horrible to him and i really want him to be happy. they are already friends and she is showing signs of liking him, though she tells me she doesn't like anyone and will tell me when she does. do you think there's a possibility that she likes him and won't tell me because i am so close to him?
also, he wants to ask her out soon. so i'm trying to help him come up with a really cute and romantic way. any ideas?
thank you. =).
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I think I'd approach this situation cautiously. You might not want to really put yourself too much in the middle of this. For one thing, you want to see that your best friend is happy, yet if he's rejected by your girlfriend, then you'll probably feel bad for him and for encouraging him too much. For another thing, your girlfriend has already told you that she's apparently not interested in anyone at this time and will let you know when she is. OK, maybe she's not being completely honest with you because she doesn't want you to go back to your best friend and tell him her feelings. But you don't know.
One thing you could try would be to just be honest with your girlfriend and let her know that your best friend is interested in asking her out. Ask her how she would feel about that because you don't want to encourage your friend to ask her out if she would plan to turn him down. Don't play "hint" games with her, just come out and be honest. And don't push her. Then you'll need to be honest right back with your best friend and if this doesn't seem like it will work out, encourage him to look elsewhere.
Another suggestion, which would keep you out of the middle for the most part, would be to arrange an outing with several people - obviously including your best guy friend and your other friend - and see what happens when they are together in the group. Your best friend could make it a point to talk to your girlfriend as much as seems reasonable and see how she reacts to his attentions. If he feels comfortable with how they're clicking, he can then ask her if she'd like to join him sometime for dinner or a movie, or whatever.
You don't want your girlfriend to think you're setting her up if in fact she really isn't interested in your best friend in ways other than as a friend. In a group setting people click in different ways and often relationships develop naturally. Maybe in this case, you might want to partake in minimal "cupid" actions and let these two get to know each other better when other folks are around. Again, see if something will develop naturally.
The "cute and romantic" ways for your best friend to ask your girlfriend out will more likely come naturally if he's able to "feel" whether or not there is any interest from this girl. If she really is starting to show signs of liking him, then this shouldn't be too hard of a situation to deal with. Other than perhaps getting together in a group setting, your friend and you should maybe not try so hard how to figure this out. Staying out of the middle completely would be to just encourage your friend to go with his gut feelings and ask this other friend out - in this scenario, withOUT your help. I know you want to help him, but sometimes it's better to just step back, breathe, and remain supportive and encouraging.
I hope your best friend finds a girlfriend who will be as sweet and caring as you seem to be. You sound like a very good friend and he's fortunate.
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it seems like she doesnt want to tell you because you are so close to him. she may think that you like him and she won't tell you because she doesn't want to create a problem. make sure she knows that you don't like him like that and she will probably be more open with you. either that or she's just a really big flirt and it looks like she likes every guy she hangs out with.
he could pretend to be her secret admirer on valentines day and he could write a note saying meet me whereever and then he could be like waiting there with flowers or something and ask her. that would be so cute!
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yes there is a chance.. lol you sound like a good freind. anyways i think she might just maybe like him. start telling her good things about him. and it might just work!
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