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well you see... in school a few weeks ago... my x boyfriend and my boyfriend were friends... and i gave my boyfriend a note.. and my x was saying my boyfriend said it was over... so i broke up with my boyfriend.. i thought my x was serious so i broke up with him... my boyfriend said it wasn't true and then he asked out this other girl... now i really really regret that i broke up with him... i still wish i was with him.. what should i do? should i tell hiim how i really feel? wait till he breaks up with the other girl? idk! i need serious help!
Id appritiate if you helped me
thanks!
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First off, thanks for dropping it in my inbox - feel free to do so anytime. Let's see here... I'll break it down to make it simple [ sorry if its too long ].
One reason that first comes to mind, although might not be the reason why it happened, is that your ex might have said that to you because he wants you back. It would seem like something to do or say if anyone wanted someone else back, right? Next time somebody says something like that, or anything about your boyfriend, always always always talk to him about it first before you do anything.
I think you should sit him down and tell him how you feel. Explain to him the whole situation about your mistake of listening to your ex without consulting him about it and ask for his forgiveness. Tell him how you feel about him. The thing is, when you do that, you put a whole different situation onto his plate: my ex broke up with me by accident, so I asked out another girl but she wants me back, what do I do? As harsh and punishing as this may seem, I think that if you really love him, you should wait. How? Well after you are done explaining to him what you were telling him, tell him that he does not have to choose between the two of you.
While it was your fault, no offence, let him come back to you on his own. Look at it this way: if he still has feelings for you and for the girl, then give him time to sort things out by himself. Try as much as you can not to make him lean towards you, kind of set this neutrally. What I mean by that is don't say something like: I know your going out with her but I really really love you and need you to come back with me. Instead try something like: I just wanted to let you know how I feel and I'm leaving it up to you on whether you decide to stay with her or not, I'm fine with whatever your decision is. Why say that? Well that puts him in the middle of a bridge. If he loves you and has stronger feelings for you, then he will probably come back to you on his own...thats better than trying to pursuade him to come back - because then you will know that his feelings for you are real.
If he chooses to stay with the other girl, then I guess you should wait it out. Give him the cold shoulder? Definately not. Just because you broke up [and not for something serious], it doesn't mean you can't be friends. The best you could do would be to just be there for him if and when he needs you. If things don't turn out so well with him and the other girl, then yeah you definately have a chance. Try to be as understanding as you can about his feelings on the whole situation too, and take that into account as well.
Well I hope that helped and good luck. If there was anything that was unclear or not sure of then let me know.
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