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my friend is a mystery
i have a friend who moved here last february & we have become really good friends. i mean really close...we can talk to each other about things that i don't think i could even tell most people. i just feel like i am missing something, because i don't know about her past. i know she has a dad, stepmom & stepsister (her stepmom has been married to her dad for only a little over a year but they are luckily very close). however, i have no idea what happened to her real mom. she has never mentioned her ever...i don't know if she's dead, if her parents are divorced, or what. it never use to bother me, but now that we are so close i just feel like i should know something. i know that she proabably has never mentioned her for a reason (she might be sad or angry perhaps?) but as her close friend i feel like i should be able to know somehting. do you think i should bring it up? if so how would you go about doing that (and if something bad happened with her mom i really don't want her to get upset or angry). do you think it is appropriate for me to say/ask anything at all? thanks!
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Ok, its deffinitly great for you to want to know about her past and everything. My best friend, who I have been friends with since first grade and I talk about mostly everything, except about her family. Of course, I know about her family, but not about why her parents split up and that kind of stuff. Your friend is possibly embaressed about her past or something. She might not be the type of person that likes to share things about her family. And, she probably definitly knows that you are a great friend, but soem people dont feel comfortable sharing that type of information. I dont think she would get angry, but, she might be uncomfortable. Hope I helped! And good luck!
-Brina
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when you are talking about 'moms' in general, bring it up. if something bad happened that shes sad about then be there for her and have a shoulder to cry on. make sure she knows that you are there for her and you are curious about her family. youre right that she probably has a reason for not telling you, but maybe she just didnt know the right time to tell you. its not something you randomly talk about. i dunno maybe her moms not dead or there was a tragic argument, maybe she just dislikes her mom and thats it... who knows?!
XO KALIE
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