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Hi, I am Rajib from Bangladesh . I am 20 . I love a girl who is 17 . I am trying to propose her in many ways . But because of some problem in her house , I cant ! My mom & dad like her also . Please tell me how I can propose her ?
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Hello Rajib. Thanks for coming to Advicenators for help! :)
I know that proposing marriage takes a lot of time and effort. I know that everything needs to be just perfect.
I'm not sure what problems are going on in her home but I am wondering if maybe you should give her a little time before asking her to marry you. If she is having a hard time at home then maybe you should just be supportive and friendly right now so she can relax about the stressful situation. I know when you're in love that marriage seems to be a huge goal, but sometimes you need to take time so the marriage will not be tough. You want things to go smoothly.
Something to consider is her own desires. You should have already had a few small discussions about marriage and how she feels about it in her life. She may be planning on never getting married or she may have a total dream proposal that she wish would happen. You don't have to make it obvious to her that you are looking to marriage, but it would be good to have an idea of things she expects when it comes to marriage.
So, you may want to consider giving the relationship more time to grow before popping the question. You are both very young and should be enjoying your youth. It may be best to continue dating this girl and enjoy each other's company before rushing into married life, especially during a rough time in her own home. You want this to be memorable, not something she looks back and sees surrounded by lots of stress and pain.
You should probably talk to her parents about marrying her before any of this. It is only polite, of course, to ask for their daughter's hand when she is so young. Her parents need to know that you want to marry her before you propose--you can even ask them if they feel this time is appropriate of if she is in such a stressful situation that it should wait. Here parents have known her since birth and can give you ideas on when the right time may be.
If you find that proposing right now is best then here is a neat site with 50 different ways to propose to the person you love:
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Here is some good tips on HOW to propose. Make sure you read the entire thing before jumping into the proposal:
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You definately do not need to make the occasion fancy and expensive. You can simply make a small, romantic evening of it and propose on one-knee, traditionally. Remember things like:
Experts recommend an 18-month lead time for wedding planning.
Only 19% of women feel that asking parental permission prior to proposal is unimportant. Asking IS something to take note of.
About 58% of women feel that the place of the first date is an excellent place to propose--no matter how public it is.
90% of women truly want their partner to propose on bended-knee.
Women's number one complaint about their proposals was that he asked without a ring.
90% of women say they do not want to be involved in the planning of their engagements. Surprises are good when it comes to proposing!
So, relax and re-evaluate the situation. Make sure that this is something you both really want and that you both can handle at this point in your lives. You both are very young and it may be best to wait until her life has settled and there isn't as much stress.
I hope all goes well with your relationship. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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