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Should I just give up?
Hello, Last night me and 3 of my friends went out and did some stuff (nothing sexual). And well one of these friends I've liked for a little while now. And the whole time she was looking for boys. Her boyfriend left her for another girl about 2 or 3 weeks ago. And I guess I feel like giving up. I don't know if I should or not. Oh well, I just want some feedback. Please.
Thanks,
Nab.
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I am so sorry it took me like...2 months to see this question. I havent been on advicenators in awhile.
I'm sure things have changed between you and her since this question was asked but if things are still the same well then I say say let her know how you feel...indirectly. By way of a friend or something. You can always deny it if she doesnt feel the same.
Hope things work out.
--Beth
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Let her know that you like her and see what happens. The worst she can do is she might reject you, but if she is a true friend she'll stay friends with you afterwards. If not, then she wasn't a sincere friend to begin with. Good luck.
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Well, I understand how you feel. And well I guess the best advice I can give, is to have a lot of patience. It is not often that young girls fall for guys that they consider friends. They want some guy that they and all their friends think are "hot" and it's hard to feel that way about someone you have been friends with. But that changes with time. Sometimes girls get hurt, guys dump them over and over, and by they time they turn 17 or 18 they get tired of being dumped and realize that sometimes the best guy is the one that they always thought of as a friend. Who always treated them with respect and who would never do anything to hurt them.
The other piece of advice that I would give, is this. Why not just let her know that you like her and you are interested in take the relationship to the next level. You never know, she may also discover that she is interested. Give her time to get used to the idea. One of the main reasons that we don't persue people that we are attracted to is that we are afraid of rejection. Well it is not likely that you will get through you life without being rejected a few times. It happens to all of us. The answer is to not take it personally. Some people just won't be attracted to us, no matter what we do or say or look like. We all have individual tastes. Just be a great guy and be polite and kind and you will find that when you are older, and love really counts. A wonderful girl will be attracted to you. And you will look back on this time and wonder why you were in such a hurry to be in a relationship, when the real wonderful kind of love, comes when you are older and more mature, and are in a position to share more with each other. Give it time. good luck to you and thanks for asking me a question.
Michele
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How can you give up before you even do anything? Tell her how you feel. She may have no clue since you are "just friends". She may like you too. But even if she doens't feel the same, she will feel complimented that you like her; and then you will know her answer.
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