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so we have finals..and i usually cram lol and when you cram..you kinda do it yourself haha? but anywaysssss like, this one girl came over and we studied together (my dad said yes btw). so then my dad leaves the house for some reason ..and my mom comes home from work. and she starts being all "what the heck are you two doing? dont study together the night before the final!! go to a seperate room and study by yourself! NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and all that and omg she was SOOOOOOOOOO MEAN ! and she was really rude to my friend! you arent rude to guests! you scream at your kid when the guest is GONE, not when the guest is THERE! and now she probably thinks my family is full of freaks =/ i hate my mom so much right now you have no idea how RUDE and MEAN she was! like seriously, you had to be there..you'd totally agree! HELP!!!!!!!!!!
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I'm really sorry that your mom embarassed and upset you. It sounds like she was trying to do what she thought was best but I see why it upset you.
Here's the analogy I use when I'm talking to Zach - If you had a dog (a dog that was incredibly faithful and protective of you), and it got hit by a car and was laying in the street in pain....if you walk up to it and try and help it, chance are, it will bite you. It's an instinct. When any animal or person is in pain, it's normal to lash out. It has nothing to do with you or anything YOU did, it's about being in pain and no knowing how to manage it.
Instead of getting angry with your mom and feeling hatred towards her, take a moment and go try and understand why she was so angry when she got home. Maybe she was in terrible traffic...maybe she had a terrible day at work...maybe she went to buy you the perfect Christmas gift and they were sold out...there are millions of things that could have happened to her to make her angry when she got home.
Nobody loves you as much as your parents but this parent thing is TOUGH. It's really hard because it's impossible to always do the right thing. So guess what? Parents make mistakes. Everybody does. It's important that you take time to try and understand and work through the issues when they arise. (not just with your parents - it's the same thing with bullys at school or even your friends)
If you were MINE, and you came and and talked to me about what happened and how it made you feel, I'd feel really bad and I'd try hard to be more sensitive in the future. But it's important that you remember that your parents are human too and have feelings. Don't attack or accuse or be angry with her. FIRST, ask her if she had a bad day yesterday and try and see if something put her in a bad mood. THEN tell her how her behavior made you feel.
Talk to your parents. They used to be teenagers too. They WANT you to tell them how you feel about things. They WANT to be the best parents they can be. Let me know how this works out for you.
Much Love,
Mrs S
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